Post # 1
My FIL’s have showed no interest in our wedding…in fact, they haven’t spoken to us in about 5 months (not because we don’t get along just because they never call or respond to our calls/texts). Fiance and I were hoping they would pay for the rehersal dinner back when we started planning a year ago. That isn’t happening. Anyway, Fiance got this text from his dad that was super weird.
It went something like this:
“how’d you do on your tax refund this year?” -FFIL
“we did OK.” -FI
“Well we did REALLY good this year. Three times more than usual.” -FFIL
Thats around 24k…(he told us last year what he got back too?)
To send a text like that when he knows his son works 70-80 hours a week trying to pay for the wedding…kind of rude. I don’t even mind that they haven’t offered to help pay for any of the wedding…but don’t text your son telling him how much extra money you have. Maybe it would have sat better with me if he included “how have you been?” or “can’t wait for the wedding!”…but nothing!
Post # 3
oooh dear, i’m sorry. that would really frustrate me too… have you guys directly asked them for money? that’s what we had to do because they didn’t offer up any money on their own without being asked like my family did.
Post # 4
I agree. Very rude indeed.
Post # 5
Yeah, my family doesn’t talk about money…it’s considered very impolite, to this day I have no idea how much my parents make or have, and I like it that way. That sounds like bragging to me and I wouldn’t like it one bit!
Post # 6
If I were your Fiance I probably would’ve written back ” that’s nice, care to share?” Just in a joking manner to see if they were hinting at helping out. If they are just bragging then its pretty rude.
Post # 7
Wow. I would be too. Sorry!
Post # 8
Yeah that is really rude!
I don’t really get why people think a tax return is something you can do well on though or get excited about. It’s not free money, it’s your money that you shouldn’t have had to pay to begin with so you get it back! Sort of like forced saving I guess?
Post # 9
@mrs.jk: I think we would have asked them but since they haven’t talked to us in so long it doesn’t feel right anymore.
Whenever they do talk to us, which is not often…they include the costs of their new motorcycle or their new big screen tv. I mean…really? I think it’s just tacky. We have never shared any of our finances with them! Accept when they asked how much Fiance made last year–maybe they just decided on their own that he makes enough so we don’t need help…I’m not sure :-/
Post # 10
@rolling berry: I’d like to think that but Fiance and I are pretty sure he did some cheating to get more back…I know that sounds bad to assume but that is just the type of guy he is. Luckily, Fiance was mostly raised by his mom!
Post # 11
Awwwh, that is rude. I’m sorry!
Post # 12
Sorry to hear about that. It sounds like they are very much into themselves, and their material things, and are just not considerate enough to ask how you all are doing with the wedding and in general. Don’t let it get to you down.
Post # 13
@Heatherloveskenny: Just be glad that you are smart enough to have withholding that doesn’t give the government an interest-free loan. I never understand the whole “huge return” excitement. I’d rather have invested that money for the past year and be earning interest on it. You’re going to have to learn how to block out one-uppers….there are so many of them in life, and most of the time, they aren’t actually winning!
Post # 15
Wow what an immature move on his parents side. :/
Post # 16
Jesus. What kind of parents have to one-up their child? EEK.