(Closed) a little payback for the ever annoying “but your so young”

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

ahaha!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Love…it…!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe I’m alone on this, but that sounds to me like an unnecessarily mean comment.  I mean, when someone says you’re young, is it something you think about all day long?  Does it make you feel bad about yourself? Because I feel like telling someone she’s old and mocking her for not being married would probably affect her that way. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Twista: It’s kind of obnoxious when a stranger feels the need to comment on your marital status. Seriously, it’s none of their business and being told you’re too “young” is offensive — I get this all the time.. I’m not even that young, I just LOOK really young.

It’s frustrating, and yes.. early in the morning, before my cup of coffee, I could totally see myself saying something snarky to a meddlesome stranger.

Heh, personally? I think this is hilarious!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

well MAYBE that woman should have thought about how rude SHE was being and it wouldn’t have been an issue. I don’t see how it’s okay for the OP to be put down for being too young and not okay for her to say something. Besides it wasn’t that mean and maybe now that lady will keep her tongue in check next time she wants to comment on someone being young 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Twista – When my brother got engaged to a younger girl, she was constantly being told the you’re so young line. So YES she did think about it constantly. She had major issues over wondering what people where thinking about her, and she was afraid people were going to think she was in a bad relationship and that my bro was forcing her into marriage and that maybe people thought she was pregnant. She had a million things going on in her mind at all times, I wish she would have had the guts to say something like the OP!!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MsBlueberryBee: Rude + rude doesn’t equal getting even. That was snarky and rude, much more so than her comment. She was probably pondering the (lengthy and well established) statistical downsides of getting married young, and shouldn’t have said anything out loud. You, however, basically told her she was a shriveled spinster. Completely different connotation.

Try and take the high road next time.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Was it harsh, yes. But I get really upset when people feel the need to comment on my life and pass judgement. And I do get upset all day. And frankly those are the people who feel the need to comment on how you parent your child in public, and frankly those people need to learn that if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Sorry but your response was totally out of line.  First of all, she just pointed out that you were young, she didn’t say “too young to be married”.  Second of all, I’m quite certain she wasn’t trying to be mean, but you were.  As someone said above, two wrongs don’t make a right. 

Also.. you apparently are too young to know the difference between the words “your” and “you’re”. Doesn’t feel too nice to have someone point out your shortcomings does it?

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Eh I’ve just stopped listening to people who say I’m too young.  Yes, some people are too young to get married but that isn’t something they are going to be able to tell from just looking at me.  I just couldn’t say that to someone, personally.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Moose1209: three wrongs don’t make a right either 🙂 just sayin.

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