Post # 1
So this post really has nothing to do with age, more with people offering unwanted opinions.
I know that there has to be a good amount of bees out there who regardless your age, get the “but your so young to be getting married” without people knowing your age, or anything about you. Well I got a little payback this morning. I usually just roll my eyes and walk away after comments like that…
….but this morning I had to stop at Walgreens before work, and before my coffee! at the checkout the women looks at me and then at my finger and she goes:
Her:”Are you married?”
Her: “My goodness your so young!”
well I think me not having had my coffee may helped my response, which was this:
I looked down at her finger and then back up at her, smiled and said: “My goodness your so old to not be married.”
Took my bag and walked out! Some how that one little encounter just made me feel better about all the unwanted comments people feel free to give!
Post # 6
Maybe I’m alone on this, but that sounds to me like an unnecessarily mean comment. I mean, when someone says you’re young, is it something you think about all day long? Does it make you feel bad about yourself? Because I feel like telling someone she’s old and mocking her for not being married would probably affect her that way.
Post # 7
@Twista: I thinks it’s rude when people feel the need to voice that they think I’m too young to be married. They don’t know me but they still find it necessary to say something like that, I mean all she had to say was “oh” instead she said “but your so young” in a way mocking me for being young. So I flipped the tables and said that. And yes it does bother me when people I don’t know feel the need to say that, it’s rude and uncalled for imo.
Post # 8
@Twista: It’s kind of obnoxious when a stranger feels the need to comment on your marital status. Seriously, it’s none of their business and being told you’re too “young” is offensive — I get this all the time.. I’m not even that young, I just LOOK really young.
It’s frustrating, and yes.. early in the morning, before my cup of coffee, I could totally see myself saying something snarky to a meddlesome stranger.
Heh, personally? I think this is hilarious!
Post # 9
well MAYBE that woman should have thought about how rude SHE was being and it wouldn’t have been an issue. I don’t see how it’s okay for the OP to be put down for being too young and not okay for her to say something. Besides it wasn’t that mean and maybe now that lady will keep her tongue in check next time she wants to comment on someone being young 🙂
Post # 10
@Twista – When my brother got engaged to a younger girl, she was constantly being told the you’re so young line. So YES she did think about it constantly. She had major issues over wondering what people where thinking about her, and she was afraid people were going to think she was in a bad relationship and that my bro was forcing her into marriage and that maybe people thought she was pregnant. She had a million things going on in her mind at all times, I wish she would have had the guts to say something like the OP!!
Post # 11
@MsBlueberryBee: Rude + rude doesn’t equal getting even. That was snarky and rude, much more so than her comment. She was probably pondering the (lengthy and well established) statistical downsides of getting married young, and shouldn’t have said anything out loud. You, however, basically told her she was a shriveled spinster. Completely different connotation.
Try and take the high road next time.
Post # 12
Was it harsh, yes. But I get really upset when people feel the need to comment on my life and pass judgement. And I do get upset all day. And frankly those are the people who feel the need to comment on how you parent your child in public, and frankly those people need to learn that if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all.
Post # 13
Sorry but your response was totally out of line. First of all, she just pointed out that you were young, she didn’t say “too young to be married”. Second of all, I’m quite certain she wasn’t trying to be mean, but you were. As someone said above, two wrongs don’t make a right.
Also.. you apparently are too young to know the difference between the words “your” and “you’re”. Doesn’t feel too nice to have someone point out your shortcomings does it?
Post # 14
Eh I’ve just stopped listening to people who say I’m too young. Yes, some people are too young to get married but that isn’t something they are going to be able to tell from just looking at me. I just couldn’t say that to someone, personally.
Post # 15
@crayfish:imo what I said wasn’t more rude then what she said. And honestly I don’t see anything wrong with saying something back to a person when they are rude. And if you read the first line of this post it says that it has nothing to do with age so really if she doesn’t know my stats what base is she going off of to make her judgement. People say things to others all the time knowing nothing about them. For all that lady knows I could be the same age as her.
Post # 16
@Moose1209: three wrongs don’t make a right either 🙂 just sayin.