(Closed) A little problem in bed…

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
394 posts
Helper bee

Um… why did you post this in the photography section?

Post # 4
1227 posts
Bumble bee

@atomic:  Maybe they were taking pictures.

Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You posted this in photography – I know my SO would be put off by a camera in the bedroom Wink

In all seriousness, though, I think it’s most likely just the stress he’s under, as well as it being fairly late – if he’s tired, sex probably isn’t the first thing on his mind (yes, sometimes guys have other things to think about!). I know it’s hurtful when something like this happens – believe me, I know! But, if he’s anything like my guy, chances are he feels even worse about it than you do. Try not to take it personally, and just let it go – I’m sure he’s asked you for sex when you’re not in the mood.

Post # 7
135 posts
Blushing bee

Dang, I was hoping to see some photos.

Post # 8
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@bretonvirgniia:  I wouldn’t take it personally at all- as men get older, sometimes this is just… one of those natural things that sometimes happens.

Your Fiance is 31 now… he probably doesn’t have the same um… ‘pep’ that he did when he was 21, for instance, but it certainly has nothing to do with his attraction for you!

Post # 9
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SeaSalt:  :), just got a little giggle out of that one

I wouldn’t worry about it. Especially if it was just this one time. Try not to beat yourself up about it and just left it go. If it continues to happen, maybe just have a talk about his stress (while NOT mentioning the reason for your concern)

Post # 12
1227 posts
Bumble bee

Ok, to the original post….

Pretend it never happened.  As bad as you feel, he feels 1000x worse.  For men, that is the equivalent of say, wearing white pants to a party consisting of all of your closest friends, and unexpectedly getting your period in a very obvious way.  It’s mortifying to most of them.  If you bring it up, he’ll start to get anxious about and think about it, and the next time you guys are getting busy, he’ll be worried about it, and it will probably happen again.

It’s got nothing to do with you. Forget about it, and move on.

Post # 13
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@bretonvirgniia:  It likely has nothing to do with you. Did he even know you had already masturbated to orgasm?

It happens to many men and is nothing to stress out about. Speaking of stress, is he under any stress? Work? Financial? Personal?

Post # 14
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Meh, it happens to everyone every now and then. Unless it was a routine issue, don’t worry about it! But it’s definitely a little bit awkward, I agree.

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