(Closed) a little rant, Need a little advice pls.it's long

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hi bee. I Just had my wedding and having had family drama of my own, all I can advice you is to stop worrying about other people. You know what kind of person you would be if you didnt invite her? A person that wants to be happy, and wants positive happy people that love her be there for a very special occasion. What I learned is that at the end of the day you are responsible for your own happiness, and if that means standing up for yourself (by not inviting her) then so be it. Good Luck, from a former too nice girl 😉

Post # 4
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would say just ignore her. If she tries to marginalize your news just say ” that’s nice but back to my news”.  If she tells you how to do something ” thanks, I’ll keep that in mind”  

I also would just stop going over and If they ask why tell them ” I dislike the way you treat my husband and untill you can respect me and him, then you do not get to see either of us”

Good luck!

Post # 5
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

All I can say is that I feel for you. My FI’s Grandmother is literally balls to the walls crazy and she absolutely hates me because she thinks her grandson should be with someone else.

I don’t think that you’re over reacting in the slightest bit but you are definitely letting it get to you. You’re Grandmother sounds VERY petty. Just remember that your happiness is truly the only thing that matters.

I used to be a push over but let me tell you, I’m far from it now. Family or not, speak your mind and tell her how it is!

Everyone has issues but in the end family will always be family. If you honestly think you’ll be happy without them there then don’t invite them. Keep in mind, regrets suck.

Post # 7
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

How often can you avoid her, even if she does live in the same apt complex? Like, how often do you see her and when? I would avoid her at all costs. Maybe some distance will make her appreciate you guys a little more. I’m doubting it because she has been stuck in this for 6 years, but you never know.

FI’s great aunt is like that. At FI’s great grandma’s b-day she asked about my job. I am a paraprofessional at a middle school, so I pretty much make minimum wage, so she is like, “So are you going to go to school and get a real education?” I was like, “Uh, I have an education in technology unless that isn’t real enough for you?” I’ve never seen someone turn that red, lol. She hasn’t said anything like that again and is actually quite pleasant.

Anyway, I think a talk with grandma is in order…she’s pretty out of line.

Post # 8
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7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Mrs.Saez:  I’m thinking that she is probably worried for you, and doesn’t express it well. 🙁  I’d try to ignore it.

Post # 10
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Bah. She’s frusterating me and I don’t even know her, lol. Yeah, your best bet is to avoid or ignore her unless she wants to have a serious talk about ehr words and actios are affecting you.

Post # 13
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

I feel for you on this. I have similar family drama. My grandma has even made the comment thatmay boyfriend (who is a nursing student) doesn’t look like he’d be a good one since he doesn’t look like he has enough muscle to lift people. 

I hope it gets better for you. I know in my case talking with her makes it worse.

I honestly don’t wish this sort of pain families can inflict on anyone. except maybe the family doing it so they know how much heart ache they cause.

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