(Closed) A little sad…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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46656 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It doesn’t mean she doesn’t consider you a close friend. Every bride has to have some sort of cut off point for her BM’s. She may be dealing with accomodating sisters, FSIL’s etc.

Think about it. If every Bridesmaid or Best Man had to ask the bride to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man, the same people would be in all the weddings.

Put your big girl panties on, slap on a smile and be her friend.

Post # 4
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s really tough but I don’t think you should bring it up. I know it sucks but just because she is your bm doesn’t mean you need to be one of hers. Try to let it go and be happy for her.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Look on the bright side. While her attendants are obligated to take photos and literally attend to her, you and your SO can go off and drink, eat, and party. =)

Post # 8
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11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Bwed2012:  i wouldn’t worry about it.  now you can wear what you want and enjoy the whole day.  just be supportive of your friend.

Post # 9
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8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Bwed2012:  There could be a whole number of reasons why she didn’t ask you.. likely nothing personal.

I’d try not to worry.

On the bright side, you don’t have to buy a dress you’ll never wear again and do a bunch of work for her wedding, right?

Post # 10
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2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldnt worry too much.

I have an interesting related situation.  i had only wanted two BM’s.(two close high school friends) but i found out threw my mom that my sister was upset. i dont know why i didnt think to include her. i was her Bridesmaid or Best Man and she is my only sister. so i asked her without her knowing i knew she was upset. THEN my mother in law told me my Fiance sister in law was upset i didnt ask her. …. so threw much thought i finally decided to ask her so not to hurt her feelings and well she is his brothers wife and we are sister in laws that live in the same small town. THEN i had a childhood friend come out and ask me to be one as soon as she found out i was engaged. It actually made me feel nostalgic. she wanted to be one so bad she asked. she has always thought of me as her best friend so why didnt i ask her. 

So dont take it personally. if you are really good friends with her just ask. it couldnt hurt. i didnt mind. if there is a good reason she will tell you. like maybe she wants a small party or so on and so forth. Also i have had friends tell me please dont ask to me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. which i thought was funny.

 

Post # 11
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3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I would mention it if I were in your situation just because I would be curious as to why I wasn’t being asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I would be hurt until I found out why & hopefully by asking you’ll get an answer that will make you feel less hurt.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Bwed2012:  Understandable! I’m glad your not letting it get in between your friendship, that’s more important.

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