Post # 1
Any other bees feel this way? After 32 years having my name i must admit im a little sad to not have it soon. Dont get me wrong im honored to take my fi last name, its important to him and i love his family to death but i know its one thing im gonna need to adjust to for sure. Im not going to hyphenate or keep it as a middle name cause for me i just dont see the point just wondering if any other bees had a hard time letting go?
Post # 3
I’m not changing my name for precisely those reasons, plus others. So I completely understand how you feel!
Post # 4
Me! I always planned on taking his name and there are many reasons I still want to, but I do feel weird about leaving my maiden name behind. Especially the idea of having to come up with a new signature, for some reason. I was so used to mine!
I will be keeping mine as a middle name though.
Post # 5
I felt that way too. It’s what made me decide to actually keep it, despite what I originally thought I wanted! I don’t love the hyphenated name, so my original plan had been to keep it as a middle name…. but I just couldn’t do it! Good luck with your big decision.
Post # 6
I feel the same. I am changing it to my middle name.
Post # 7
It was totally bittersweet. I remember crying when i was leavinging the SS office actually. I really love my maiden name but not chaning it was never an option. I always wanted to take my husbands name. After a year of marriage i’m finally used to it. 🙂
Post # 8
I totally understand how you feel. Even though I am delighted to take his name, I still want to hold on to part of my own history. So I will be hypenating my name.
Post # 9
I’m actually looking forward to taking FI’s last name. I will be dropping my last name and just keeping my middle name. Don’t get me wrong I love my last name but I will not miss it. It will be my way of starting my new life with hubby by having his last name.
Post # 10
This, and many other reasons (why should I have to change my identity because I’m married? Particulary when he doesn’t!), is why I’m not changing my name. However, I never thought I was going to, nor does it matter to my fiance. Good luck in your decision though, I hope it works out for you 🙂
Post # 11
For all of these reasons… I am keeping my name! Out of curiosity, why are you ladies changing your names? Fiance says he wants us to have the same name to “be a unit”. Is that the reason for you guys, or are there other reasons?
Post # 12
I was not thrilled about it for the longest time. We are both Italian but his father was part German and he has a German last name. Nothing wrong with German names it just seemed weird to me considering we both have strong Italian backgrounds and families and people have always associated with my ways by my last name. It’s very Italian. SO yeah when I introduce myself with a German name I sort of feel like I am losing a bit of heritage which is nuts and silly and totally not worth caring about but for some reason my identity feels out of whack about it ha-ha
Post # 13
I feel the same way, and that’s why I’m keeping my name. I’m also prepared for people to call me Mrs. HisLast, and I don’t think I’ll get too offended. Maybe a gentle correction if it is someone who really should know better. But yeah, I can’t stand the idea of not having my last name anymore (even though I was totally That Girl that doodled my name with new last names with all my crushes)
Post # 14
I’m keeping my name. No problem if someone addresses me by his last name – I think it’s sweet – but my last name is my name, and I can’t just let go of it. It would be terribly confusing in my career, so I’m keeping my name.
Post # 15
i wish i could get Fiance to take MY name… if my brother doesn’t have any babies, our name dies in America.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’m 40, and I like the idea of taking his name because to me, it signifies the new family we’re creating together. I never liked my middle name, so I am very happy to drop it and make my maiden my middle name. It would be too hard to lose it completely.