(Closed) a little sad to change my name

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not changing my name for precisely those reasons, plus others.  So I completely understand how you feel!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Me! I always planned on taking his name and there are many reasons I still want to, but I do feel weird about leaving my maiden name behind. Especially the idea of having to come up with a new signature, for some reason. I was so used to mine!

I will be keeping mine as a middle name though.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I felt that way too.  It’s what made me decide to actually keep it, despite what I originally thought I wanted!  I don’t love the hyphenated name, so my original plan had been to keep it as a middle name…. but I just couldn’t do it!  Good luck with your big decision.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel the same.  I am changing it to my middle name. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

It was totally bittersweet. I remember crying when i was leavinging the SS office actually.  I really love my maiden name but not chaning it was never an option. I always wanted to take my husbands name. After a year of marriage i’m finally used to it. 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I totally understand how you feel. Even though I am delighted to take his name, I still want to hold on to part of my own history. So I will be hypenating my name.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m actually looking forward to taking FI’s last name. I will be dropping my last name and just keeping my middle name. Don’t get me wrong I love my last name but I will not miss it. It will be my way of starting my new life with hubby by having his last name.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This, and many other reasons (why should I have to change my identity because I’m married?  Particulary when he doesn’t!), is why I’m not changing my name.  However, I never thought I was going to, nor does it matter to my fiance.  Good luck in your decision though, I hope it works out for you 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

For all of these reasons… I am keeping my name! Out of curiosity, why are you ladies changing your names? Fiance says he wants us to have the same name to “be a unit”. Is that the reason for you guys, or are there other reasons?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was not thrilled about it for the longest time. We are both Italian but his father was part German and he has a German last name.  Nothing wrong with German names it just seemed weird to me considering we both have strong Italian backgrounds and families and people have always associated with my ways by my last name. It’s very Italian. SO yeah when I introduce myself with a German name I sort of feel like I am losing a bit of heritage which is nuts and silly and totally not worth caring about but for some reason my identity feels out of whack about it ha-ha 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel the same way, and that’s why I’m keeping my name. I’m also prepared for people to call me Mrs. HisLast, and I don’t think I’ll get too offended. Maybe a gentle correction if it is someone who really should know better. But yeah, I can’t stand the idea of not having my last name anymore (even though I was totally That Girl that doodled my name with new last names with all my crushes)

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m keeping my name. No problem if someone addresses me by his last name – I think it’s sweet – but my last name is my name, and I can’t just let go of it. It would be terribly confusing in my career, so I’m keeping my name.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i wish i could get Fiance to take MY name… if my brother doesn’t have any babies, our name dies in America.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’m 40, and I like the idea of taking his name because to me, it signifies the new family we’re creating together. I never liked my middle name, so I am very happy to drop it and make my maiden my middle name. It would be too hard to lose it completely.

 

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