Post # 16
It sounds like you were feeling excluded—maybe some of what you’re feeling are hurt feelings over not being in the wedding party? I don’t know, it just seems like you were feeling a little left out for whatever reason, maybe because you used to be closer to the people in her group and aren’t anymore.
As for the decor, I’m sure it felt very similar to you, but most people are not going to notice. I can’t tell you how many threads I’ve seen on here where someone is talking about their friend having “the exact same” dress or ring or whatever, and then when you see pictures of both side by side, they look completely different. Don’t sweat it.
Post # 17
peridot456: I actually have never been close enough friends with her to think I’d be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She isn’t one of mine either, so no reason for me to be jealous 🙂 There were several other people that commented on her BMs behavior. The dance was also really odd; a lot of the songs weren’t good dancing songs, but someone from the bridal party would say “remember this song from whenever!?” and they would all cheer, and the dance was also stopped several times and someone would sing a random song or do some dance. The Wedding Party clearly knew what was going on, but everyone else was standing around confused. I’ve never been to a wedding where so much was centered around the WP; several good friends of theirs left pretty early, irritated over it.
And regarding the decor, like I said, it was just a shock. There were other things too, like I showed her a picture of my dress when I got it and a month later she had gotten almost an identical one, we picked our honeymoon location and they decided to go to the same place. I figured it was a coincidence, or she liked the ideas but seeing that she totally changed her decor to what I was doing too it almost felt like she was secretly using me as her planner. I get that a lot of people just happen to have the same things, but I mean her colors and decor changed completely within a few months of her wedding. BUT the plus side is that I get to see how it looks before my own wedding 😉