(Closed) A little upset. . .

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes, it’s wrong. Be happy for him! Other people’s lives don’t revolve around your wedding, and there is enough joy in the world for everyone. His happiness will not take away from yours. 🙂

Post # 4
6882 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

He really isnt stealing your thunder you get 1 day.  Be happy you are going to be an aunt. 

Post # 5
5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Look your feelings are your feelings but I think this “stealing thunder” thing gets way out of hand. People can be excited for a baby and a wedding simultaneously.

Post # 6
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Yes, it is wrong.  Good grief, you are getting a neice or nephew.  That is a pretty amazing “wedding gift”.

Post # 7
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Although I can see why you might be a little upset, I think it’s great that your family will have two happy events so close together. It’s great that he told you in private, too, as opposed to in a room full of people. I love being an aunt – congrats!

Post # 9
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think the only way they can steal your thunder if if she pops that baby out during the wedding.  Hopefully, that won’t happen.  🙂

Post # 10
3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

It’s not like this is something he planned to do– I wouldn’t invest your energy into being upset, just accept it and move on.  

It doesn’t count as “stealing” when it wasn’t something he wanted/planned for. 

Post # 11
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How does 1 person having a baby in any way detract from another person getting married?


I don’t get it.


It ADDS to the excitement; it doesn’t take away from it.

Post # 12
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can’t see being upset over something like this. What can he do? Delay the baby? It’s an exciting time for your whole family, be happy for him!

Post # 13
2293 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Whew, at least it’s likely she’ll have had the baby by then and at least your brother will be able to be there. I’d be more worried if her due date was a little after your wedding, more risk of him not being there.

Two of my bridesmaid are likely to be due early to mid May (not for sure yet), so I definitely can relate to a little worry about how a pregnancy can impact someone’s ability to be at the wedding. Beside that, I honestly don’t think it is going to steal your thunder! The two events are so different that they will each be special in their own way.

Post # 14
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think he planned it and really don’t think you should be upset. It’s a BABY! It’s not like they are announcing it at the wedding or anything. People love babies and people love brides. They give them each the appropriate attention at the right time. And how lucky are you to be an aunt! Yay!

Post # 15
509 posts
Busy bee

Having a baby is not something you can ‘fit’ into a schedule.  He’s not stealing your thunder, and if you’re family thinks he messed up then I think maybe they need to look in the mirror. Getting a double dose of happy is such a shame….

Post # 16
3767 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

The only part that truly sucks is that he might not be able to go (guessing his gf definitely won’t).  Other than that, glad to hear you are happy for him!  It’s not wrong to feel a little upset as long as you don’t make a big deal about it and are happy for him and his gf.

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