- 8 years ago
I just need to vent and let off a little steam. Fiance went over to a friends house earlier tonight and came back talking about how they were talking about when we were going to get married. He told me he just told them it was all up to me and that whatever I wanted to do was fine. We haven’t set a date yet because he works out of state for most of the year. I’d kicked around the idea of just getting married in Hot Springs Arkansas because he’ll be working near there and thought it would be convenient. But, part of me…ok a huge part of me…really wants to have a wedding. But since we’ll be paying for the majority of it ourselves I feel like that’s a lot of money that we could save for something else. So we’re talking and he’s telling me that whatever I want to do is fine blah blah blah (sidenote…I don’t work, I just travel with him..so technically he’ll be paying for the wedding) I really didn’t think he had ANY clue as to what a wedding can cost so I asked him what he thought the average wedding cost. His answer, 10,000. So yeah, he’s pretty much clueless. When I told him it was more like 20,000 he flipped out and said we wouldn’t be spending that much. Which was fine because I was thinking we could pull it off for more like 10,000. Then he starts saying how it’s ridiculous to spend that much money for one day and how it will set us back, and how we’re going to be buying a house, and how I want a new car….While that tiny part of me agrees that he’s right, there’s still the part that wants the wedding that I’ve been dreaming of since I can’t even remember when. He told me that I could go ahead and do whatever I wanted but I just feel like if I do go ahead and start planning we’ll just end up fighting over the money. The way I look at it, we could easily pay for the wedding with what he makes in 3 weeks. And we have a pretty good chunk in savings plus our vehicles are paid for and no debt. So, it’s not like we’re really hurting for the cash. I think my feelings are hurt that he just sees it as one day instead of seeing it as THE day where we’ll pledge our commitment to each other in front of friends and family and have memories and photos to last a lifetime and to share with grandchildren. I tried explaining this to him but I just ended up in tears and told him to forget it that I’d just go down to city hall and marry his ass and it’d be done and over with. I think I’m just really pissed that he’s said all along that whatever I wanted was fine and then the minute the money comes up he’s acting like an ass. What would ya’ll do?