(Closed) A little venting… just relationship stuff.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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GreenBayBee:  I really thought I was reading a diary entry or a private blog posting. So weird.

Post # 47
3797 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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paxie:  So as I read your name change thread and was highly intrigued by this situation I read through this post. Not two weeks ago you said you had no set plans for “moving or marriage” but now you are engaged (based on your most recent post)? To a man you have never met in person? There is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting someone on a dating site. I’ve known several people who have met their SO on the internet and it has either worked out or not depending on each couple. How can you be engaged to someone you’ve never met? I don’t get it at all (and I’m sure you’ll tell me I don’t have to). As someone who describes herself as completely “pragmatic” why are you engaged to a person who 1) you’ve never met so you don’t know if you’ll have any chemistry in real life or if you’ll have the same values/future goals, etc. and 2) you’ve never met and have only “been going steady” with since May. Do you have plans to meet at all soon? What happens if you get there and he’s awful in person, you don’t mesh, you don’t like being away from your home? Would he be willing to move here for you if you truly don’t like it?

I don’t get putting yourself in this situation. If I’m being totally honest it seems that you so want this idealized view of love that your willing to find it in any location and put yourself at great risk to get hurt. Yeah, falling and love and being in a relationship is always a risk, but this seems completely irresponsible and immature in my opinion. I hope everything works out the way you want it to. 

Post # 48
248 posts
Helper bee

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paxie:  I’ll say this, I’m sorry if I came off as a bitch.  The bee has been prone to t words (they live under a bridge) lately.  If you are for real, I do have some legit suggestions-I met Fiance online.  No judgement intended.  

  • This reply was modified 7 years, 5 months ago by luna_c.
Post # 50
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

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paxie:  I met my DH online, and not on a dating site. Everyone I know thinks it’s either hilarious or cute. Unless they are lying, no one thinks it’s “unacceptable” or even that weird. Times have moved on! Anyway, if you ever want to chat, pm me.

Post # 52
3162 posts
Sugar bee

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paxie:  Hope all goes well with your visit. I would personally proceed with caution and take my time. Chatting online and via skype is way different than spending time together in person. If there was that much drama/frustration early on before even meeting, just be cautious and mindful of what could ensue when you are actually together. 

Best of luck!

Post # 54
2452 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015


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CorvusCorax:  She also accidentally called her mom “Mum” at one point…

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