(Closed) A little worried that I DON’T have baby fever…

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@catnip:  I didn’t want or care about babies at all until I was 29. You still have plenty of time, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Having babies are over-rated IMO. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my daughter dearly (she died 10 years ago) but frankly, not every woman is obligated to reproduce. Wait until you are ready to be tied down!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Same here, Fiance want’s babies right away but the more time I spend with kids, the more I realize I don’t like kids! I feel awful for saying it but I just am worried I would be a bad mom because i’m so easily frustrated with children

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve always been told that you are never really ready and you just have to jump into it. I def feel the same way as you – I enjoy sleeping in on the weekends and being able to pick up and go wherever, whenever.  When we first got married we said we would wait a year to have kids well that year has come and gone and it was great! i’m glad we had that year of just being married but i’m just not quite ready to do it yet. We both know we want kids and more than one so it’s in our best interest to start sooner rather than later. I’ll be 26 in may and my husband just turned 27. At this point we are thinking the end of the year.. I want one last summer to do it big haha. I really really want to have a baby but its just a matter of when…and when I actually start thinking about all that is involved it totally freaks me out! you are not alone 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

‘raises hand’.  All of my friends are popping out babies and it’s actully making me want children less. Fi wants kids someday but if I didn’t have kids is be ok with it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m 27 and I’m not remotely there yet. I have a lot of friends with babies and they’re cute and everything but no thanks. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@catnip:  I’m in a similar place. I’m 27 about to turn 28 and I think I want kids eventually but I have no desire to have a baby at the moment.

I’m worried that I won’t catch that “baby bug” that so many other people seem to get.

I’m also not working at the moment (and having a hell of a time finding a job) so if I “did” have baby fever it’d be a really great time to have a child. 

I just really do not want kids yet. Sometimes just taking care of my cat is rough enough.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Kkaattii:  I think other peoples kids are different than your own. My Fiance doesn’t like other peoples children but he is very excited for his own.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Don’t worry about it! You still have plenty of time if you decide that you do want them. Take it from someone who has severe baby-rabies: enjoy the sanity, lol.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper

I’m turning 25 soon, and I’m in the exact same place as you. Right now I’m really enjoying getting to focus on my husband and me. I kind of expect my feelings to change as we get a little further into our marriage, but I also recognize that they may not.

Have you and your husband talked about an approximate timeline or anything like that? Do you know where his head is right now?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just turned 31 and until I was 29-30 I never *really* wanted kids.  Figured I’d have them…. someday… I figured when I found the right guy at the right time that I’d want them.  Well… I so do.  I’ve been with MrJ for almost 6 years and in the past couple we’ve both been eyeing little kids and having conversations that start with *when* we have kids instead of *if* we have kids.  His best friend has a 1yo, and when she visits he says things like “babies are cute – I want one.”  And I can totally see us having (the most adorable!) babies.

So what I’m saying is… unless you really *hate* kids, it’ll happen when it’s right.  You may not be ready, but you’ll want to be ready.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@catnip:  It sounds like you’re worried that you and your husband might have different ideas about when/if you should have kids. You mentioned that y’all had said a couple years, but had you nailed down an actual timeline?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Gemstone:  oops! I repeated you- sorry 🙂

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