Post # 1
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1008 posts
Bumble bee
Lately I have seen a lot of “i would NEVER” statements on Weddingbee…
“I would Never cheat”, “I would Never upgrade my ring”, “I would Never get a divorce”, feed my child oreos, call my Fiance a bad word, quit my job without giving notice.
I am just wondering if there are other people like me, who dont make these kind of statements because you never how you will change, what stresses life will throw at you etc . I had a hard time even saying forever at my wedding because of the high divorce rate……. I wanted to say, I am 100% commited and will do whatever it takes to make the marriage work but in this day and age if we lasted our enitre lifetime we would be in the minority…… but that just didn’t sound as romantic. 🙂
Thoughts…. are you one or the other? I dont think there is one thing in the world that I would feel %100 comfortable saying I would never do.
Post # 3
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4464 posts
Honey bee
I would NEVER speak in hyperbole!
Post # 4
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263 posts
Helper bee
@nonapkns: I don’t really say never, and I rarely make promises. Some people call me pessimistic, but I think I’m realistic!
Post # 5
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9209 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@star_dust: LOL! Nice.
I think a lot of posters here are pretty young and perhaps have a more black & white perspective than we slightly older ladies. I’ve definitely changed a fair bit between age 20 and 30, and I know life is a lot more complicated than you think when you’re young…
Never say never!
Post # 7
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609 posts
Busy bee
My father can tell you one thing about me. I know what I want, and I never give up til I have it. If I say, “I will never or I will”, it is the truth. It’s not hyperbole for me, but reality.
Post # 8
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3121 posts
Sugar bee
Things I do that I said I would NEVER do (but did):
I would NEVER run a half marathon…why would I want to?!?!
I would NEVER live with a man before I am married.
I would NEVER cheat (past relationship…woops, and also best thing I’ve ever done)
I would NEVER let a dog sleep in my bed…it licks it’s own ass!
I would NEVER live with a cat (love makes you do crazy things!)
So yeah, I don’t say never anymore.
Post # 9
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Eh, I think maybe you are taking the internet too seriously. Which I would NEVER do, haha ;-).
Post # 10
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1008 posts
Bumble bee
@lolot: I was thinking age might be a factor too…. I am 32. And I have changed my mind on a million things since my 20’s (thank god)
@babybee92: I think I am more of a realist too…. my Darling Husband thinks I am too negative but I just like to consider everything both good and bad.
And for the record I wasnt just talking about “negative” statements, like divorce… just anything.
Post # 11
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
@star_dust: Haha!
I don’t consider my posts on Weddingbee to be contracts. I’m not too worried if I occasionally contradict myself.
Post # 12
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2359 posts
Buzzing bee
@nonapkns: me too! I had a very hard time actually saying forever, I discussed it with my husband before but he took it as I didn’t love him or want to marry him when that’s not true, I just didn’t want to say it because who knows! It may not be forever.
Post # 13
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3429 posts
Sugar bee
Some of us have history and have “been there'” I stand by my advice posts and hope that sharing my experiences Will give insight to confused bees.
@lolot: +11111111
Post # 14
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7760 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
@nonapkns: So now you’ve got me curious: when you get married, do you intend making vows, or doing something else?
I don’t say “never” to too many things, but I did make some vows which I intend to keep.
Post # 15
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1008 posts
Bumble bee
For the record… I was just wondering because after reading so many posts I thought maybe I have too wishy washy a personality.
Just getting opinions… it doesnt bother me one way or the other.
Post # 16
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1008 posts
Bumble bee
@paula1248: I did end up saying “forever” at the end of my vows when i got married. It still was a little uncomfortable to think that 100 people in that room heard that statement, when I knew a lot of them had got up and made the same vows and were now divorced. I got over by thinking that 1. it might just be a weird quirk of mine 2. everyone is in the same boat because everyone goes into a marraige thinking it is forever and 3. I knew that I loved my Fiance whole heartedly and i knew with my presonality I would fight like hell to make it last….. but it was still REALLY hard.
@RockStar33: I am glad I am not the only one…..
