Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
We got engaged on Christmas and are getting married on May 14, 2011. That’s almost a 17 month engagement!
Now there are about 14 months left, and we’ve booked our venue, caterer and photographer. We got a friend to officiate. I also bought a cheap dress but I’m still looking just in case. We’re not getting a DJ, videographer, limo, or any of that stuff. So, all we really need to do now are pick out our attire and our attendants’ attire, hire a florist (and I’m close to choosing one anyway) and work on the details.
That seems like hardly anything. I was so gung-ho about planning when we first got engaged that now there’s a huge lull. I don’t want to start any details too soon because I know that I’ll end up changing my mind a million times. And I can look at dresses and try them on but I’m not going to buy one yet, again, because I’ll change my mind, and because I want to lose a lot of weight before actually making a purchase.
So I’ve got a lot of time and not much to do. Did any of you have a big lull in wedding planning? What did you do to fill the time?
Post # 3
I had a long engagement too. There was quite a bit of time where I just put wedding planning on the back burner and focused on the rest of my life!
Post # 4
Yep….I breathed. Focused on other things in my life NON wedding related. It was fabulous.
Post # 5
I’m with you. We’re having a 17 month engagement too. Got engaged last May, getting married this October. Truth be told, I focused on the first 6 months to getting all of the really big stuff done, just like you. I don’t even want to worry about that stuff. But now it seems, to me, that the little things are building up ,and up and up. It is SOOOOO nice though, to have moments NOT focusing on wedding related ‘stuff.’
Post # 6
I had a long engagement too. It’s nice to take it slow. You’ll have plenty of time to look at different things and you’ll be more sure about your decisions when you make them.
Post # 7
We got engaged in August ’09 and getting married in Oct ’10 so about 14 month engagement. I did the major stuff right away and believe me there is still more to do. I’m actually glad when I don’t have to think about wedding stuff. If you are looking for something to do have you thought about favors? decor? DIY projects?
Post # 8
I did the same thing – all the planning was done within a couple months. Then I relaxed and am getting ready to kick it into gear again. My goal is to have everything (well, everything except the centerpieces) finished by the end of April. That way I can just sit back and enjoy the summer!
Post # 9
I have a 21 month engagement. I didn’t do a whole lot for several months after the proposal, but it literally took me forever to find the perfect venue and dress. Once some of the big things were out of the way I kinda just looked for general ideas, etc. for the wedding. I totally agree with you not deciding on any of the details until closer because you WILL change your mind. Just enjoy the time you have, do non-wedding stuff! And trust me, time will fly and it will be here before you know it. I’m already freaking out that my wedding is 3 months away.
Post # 10
We’re having an almost 2 1/2 year engagement. I already had a minor 2 month lull, and then tackled planning with a fury, at which point I’ve gotten so much done it’s insane. So we’ll definitely have a lull, and I’m not looking forward to it. 🙁
Post # 11
We’re having a 6 month engagement and we STILL have a lull. I’m not QUITE ready to start working on details yet, but most of the major stuff is done.
Post # 12
Yes, absolutely yes. I went through this a few months ago and now things are *somewhat* picking up again. I completely know what you mean.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
We had the same thing – a 20 month engagement – we did most of the big things in the first 2-3 months and then had a serious lull, we did things slowly as they came up – we definitely could have ordered our Save-The-Date Cards earlier, and gotten started on our invites sooner, but I was stuck in the lull! Now it’s full speed ahead though, and that lull passes before you know it!
Post # 14
I am so happy you posted about a ‘lull’ – – – I hate it. It makes me feel sad or like I should be doing something but I don’t know what I should be doing. Our engagement isn’t too long its 10 mths no biggie right! We hammered out all vendors w/in the first three weeks. Our STD’s went out Feb 22nd. I am currently working with the invitation gal, looking at diff. invites etc… I have my Out of Town boxes; I have to get the items going in them.
This lull makes me sad…..