Post # 1
Backstory: I’ve pretty much kept the same two girls as best friends since like 6th grade. They traded back and forth, and now that we are 23-24 years old, we are all three best friends again. Now, one of these friends (let’s call her L) and I did drift apart a bit after high school. We tried to text each other every once in a while, and I also made sure to see her when I was back in my hometown for college winter break. My other friend (let’s call her H) and I stayed really close all through college, with her coming to visit multiple weekends a year and always coming for my birthday.
Here’s where it gets tricky: L is getting married in April, and she asked me to be her Maid of Honor. AND I AM SO EXCITED. It was unexpected and amazing. I love her and her fiancé to death. She asked me back in September (I think?) and she asked H to be a bridesmaid soon after. Now, I just got engaged. Two days ago. But, I had been planning for a while (being together 8 years tends to do that to you, ha), so I have been thinking about the whole bridesmaid/wedding party thing.
Since L will be married when I get married in November, can I give her the title of Matron of Honor, and H the title of Maid of Honor? The plan is to have three of my cousins (I’m an only child, and the fiancé’s sisters are all way older than me) as my bridesmaids. Is this a terrible idea, doomed to end in disaster?
Post # 4
I’ve seen it done without issue at a few weddings but I knew nothing of the ‘behind the scenes’ drama. Go for it if it works for your situation! 🙂
Post # 5
You can have 5 Maid/Matron of Honor if you want! As long as they’ll “play nice” and do all the “jobs” for you well together! You can do it however you want! In this case I think it’s more than appropriate to have 2!
Post # 6
I have 2 Matron on Honors. One is my sister. The other is my best friend. There is no way I could choose between them.
Post # 7
I’m having 2 maids of honor (my sisters), so I think it’s fine! Especially since you’re technically giving them separate titles. Just think about what duties/responsibilites you want each of them to take on. For example, I’m having my younger sister be our witness and sign the marriage certificate and asking my older sister to do the speech, since my younger sister is super shy anyway.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I am having a maid and matron of honor. It’s working out just fine, no drama 🙂 Plus I have three additional bridesmaids. My maid of honor is my cousin who I knew would be thrilled about it and she is the best at planning parties etc..My matron of honor is my best friend from college.
Post # 9
I’m having a maid and a matron of honor as well. One lives out of state, but even if she didn’t I couldn’t imagine choosing between the two of them.
Since both of your girls are friends, I think it will be even better!
Post # 10
I had a matron of honor – my best friend from high school/college – and a maid of honor – my sister.
My matron of honor planned my bridal shower, signed the marriage certificate, and gave a speech at the reception. My sister planned my bachelorette party, stood next to me at the ceremony, and sat next to me at the head table during the reception.
Post # 11
I think that sounds great!
Post # 12
Two of my besties will be my Matron (she just got married on the 12th) of Honor and my Maid of Honor. They both deserve the title, they’ll both have the title.
Post # 13
@mrand2008: I have both!. My two cousins are like my bestfriends and sisteres. So one just got married and one is not. So I have both and qwould not change a thing!
Post # 15
I say do what you like… I had one maid of honor and no brides mades but my hubby had two best men… and nobody said a word nor did it look odd.. Do what makes you guys happy.
Post # 16
@mrand2008: OMG SO FINE! I am only having 2 girls in my bridal party – my sisters. 20 & 32 years old. One married, one not. So Maid of Honor AND Matron of honor!