- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
So if you haven’t heard my story before, I’ve been struggling a bit. The problem is laid out in other posts so I’ll skip to the newest info!
We were finally able to talk plainly about the ring and the issues surrounding it! He told our mutual friend (my bestie) all about the ring and I did not take it well. I cried in the car on the way home, telling him I felt like I was losing my mind over something so tiny! I told him logically I understood the situation and why I couldn’t know anything but I felt so left out and helpless because I wasn’t involved in something that I would have to plan my life around. I told him I felt just awful that this burden (the cost of the ring, pressure to get it and the proposal “perfect”) was on him and I couldn’t even help him through it without it sounding like I was pressuring him. That, fellow bees, was the low point.
The good stuff comes afterward. Slowly but surely, information came pouring out. I could tell that my SO had been wanting to say these things but felt he had to keep me in the dark. It was better for both of us that we could talk about these things. Here’s the new info:
He has a setting picked out through one company and the emerald picked through another.
He hopes he can pay for it in six months.
I was able to change his mind and make him see that created emeralds can be just as good as (if not better than) genuine ones and that cut the price, he said, by $200!
He showed the setting to my BFF and she said “AWWWWWW!”
Basically, my wonderful, magical SO has answered all of the stupid questions swirling around my brain without giving away the stuff I want to be surprised by! AND we can talk about the ring in general without it putting more pressure on my beloved!
I’m sorry this post is so long, but I just had to share! I want to shout it from the rooftops!