(Closed) A Modest Ring…Good or Bad?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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ashliek: Not at all, being happy with what you have is very wise. This being said, the only way I would think that it matters is re. value for money. That ring probably isn’t worth what your partner paid and when money is tight IMO value for money is more important not less. But what’s done is done and you are happy and that is the most important thing. Enjoy it in good health!

Post # 32
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Bumble Beekeeper

The e-ring is just a gift. It looks beautiful. Size shouldn’t matter when it comes to rings; you guys are getting married! You are very smart to savor the moment. It’s an exciting time!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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ashliek:  It’s actually an H/I and I1-I2 . It’s very pretty especially for the price for real diamonds and gold and including the wedding band. Some I diamonds can have very obvious inclusions or be cloudy.   Don’t tell anyone the specs if it makes you uncomfortable. there’s no rule that says you have to! I’m getting a moissanite until we can afford a real good quality 1 ct diamond. I’m not planning on sharing the info.

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

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ashliek:  Lucky you! Your boyfriend gave you a lovely ring without going into debt. I think that’s what a lot of bees secretly wish for. You seem very mature. Not like the other  shallow young ladies that come on these boards ranting they’ve been crying for 3 days straight because Fiance didn’t give her (or worse, couldn’t afford) the ring of her dreams. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

My ring is ~$200 and I LOVE it. It’s white sapphire and 10k, I didn’t want a diamond. The middle stone is .5ct equivalent and with the side stones it takes up just enough of my finger. It’s freakin’ gorgeous, and moreso because I can look at it every day and smile knowing it wasn’t expensive.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

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ashliek:  I think you’re a wonderful human for being appreciative of a gift. We need more of that in the world.

Congrats and wear it well!

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

What a nice setting, I like the swirliness of it.

I love dainty rings, they are so pretty.

 

 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

Ps- 10kt gold is very durable and isn’t something that you will need to replace because it’s flimsy. Plus, when it is rhodium plated you won’t even be able to distinguish a difference from 10kt white/14kt white/18kt white. In regards to the diamond, the vast majority of engagement rings sold fall into the I1 range for clarity. These are rocks from the earth, and each one is special and one of a kind. I am one of those collectors that admires both the flawless and the included for the marvels of nature that they represent. The same goes for color. Let all the colors be represented and appreciated. H faces up quite white in my experience selling fine jewelry. All that being said, cherishing the ring for what it represents is what really warms your heart.

Post # 39
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Worker bee

I am in the same position but reversed. There is a ring and pending proposal. However I am concerned my ring is too, well, blingy and big. He actually set a limit of” it has to cost at least this much.” I would have been just as happy with a fifty dollar ring from jcpenny. Regardless we did a custom with a one cart moissanite. I feel like I was looking at too many rings on the bee and got caught up.

the main thing is I care to much about what people think. It is too big. It is too small. …  do I like it? I swear it has been to long since I’ve seen a picture I’m not even sure what it will look like anymore. And all that counts is what you like. And in my case a very loving and pushy SO likes.   

And you have a lovely ring 🙂

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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ashliek:  

Why should satisfaction with a modest ring indicate naivete?

I think it makes you far less materialistic than most people. 

Congratulations! Your fiance is lucky to have you. 

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Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

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ashliek:  I was criticised by my family for not getting a diamond ring at all (at my request). Who cares what other people think!

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

ashliek:  this is the set my Fiance got for me. It was less than $500 and I have to say, I ADORE it and wouldnt any other way. I wanted something simple, something that looked like my mom’s ring, and something that came from his heart; this ting was it. No has asked me about specs; theyve actually said quite nice things about it and i flaunt it. Center is .10 carat center and im happy with it 🙂

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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ashliek:  OT but I thought it was Rory Gilmore in your picture at first 

On topic, of course it’s good, if you love it! I think smaller rings are gorgeous and elegant, and I prefer them to bigger ones.

Post # 44
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Helper bee

You are not being naive, you are being mature. I told my SO I only wanted a modest ring as well, and that I would be proud showing it to our grandchildren and telling them we were young and didn’t have much money, but we were in love. He was very moved. Also, I wouldn’t walk around holding $3000, and I don’t see how I could be comfortable wearing a ring that costs that much. That’s just me.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think that is a gorgeous ring, and all that matter is that you love it – and of course that the man you love gave it to you!

My first ring cost around $300 – even my upgrade was only $700 ish! (rough exchange rates from £!). It’s not about the monetary value of the ring, there are many other ways of thinking about the value of things than just $$$ 🙂

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