Post # 1
I think I need to vent, you see my bff got engaged in Nov and asked me to be her MoH, I said yes of course! Knowing I would not say no but in the back of my head knowing that a possible engagment was on the horizon…He proposed in Feb!! Most exciting!! So now…Im in the midst of my wedding planning and planning her bridal shower and bachlorette. I want to do my very best for her, but I need most of my funds for my day…I feel awful selfish saying that but its reality.
The other bm’s are helping as much as possible…one is full time student and the other lives out of town and the mom made it know she is drained on funds….I just feel like its just expected! I had to drag help out of everyone, lord knows what would have happened if I didnt emaill anyone!! I think people forget its not just about the money its the time and pressure as well. It can get to a girl…
Post # 3
In the same boat…..
I am getting married in October, BFF is getting married at the end of July and all the financial obligations are KILLING me! I had a mental breakdown last week (possible PMS as well?) because we will be in debt a few grand after the wedding – especially since I tried sooooo hard to pay for this wedding all in cash and be debt free at the end of it. My Fiance was out of work for 2 months last yer due to a broken arm so $8000 was lost there…and we are horrible at saving and I hate being a money miser towards him.
All the baby showers, graduations, and birthdays in the next 3 months is NOT helping either!!
Good Luck – Fiance is telling me that by being financially stressed will ruin the whole wedding experience. He’s right and I’m trying to stay focused on the brightside of things and not worry about things until AFTER the wedding – we only live once!
Post # 4
Is your BFF also your Maid/Matron of Honor (or BM?) Even if she isn’t, I’m sure she would understand the financial constraints. Don’t go into debt especially for someone else’s parties – maybe you could talk to her about it and see if you can agree to keep the “extra” events as low key (and lovely) as possible. If it’s a joint decision that might make it easier. Otherwise I can see you starting to feel resentful about the situation, which wouldn’t be fun at all (for you or her). I know when my girlfriends and I are counting the pennies we try to be honest about it and plan things that won’t cost the others much money.