(Closed) A Moment of Serenity

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you think you're more anxious or excited while playing the "waiting" game?
    Anxious... I don't like the feeling of "will he/won't he". : (6 votes)
    18 %
    Excited... I KNOW it's happening, I just don't know when! : (7 votes)
    21 %
    BOTH... I have my good days and bad days! : (19 votes)
    58 %
    Other, please explain below. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee

    Ha there needs to be a button for both.  Some days I handle it well (this is most days).  Other days I’m anxious.  I feel a little crazy some days like I need a padded room LOL.  Probably stems from the fact I’m NOT a patient person.  I can honestly say I haven’t been patient from the day I was born as I was a preeemie. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    266 posts
    Helper bee

    so i know that my ring will be coming any time this week and and i am DIEING!!!! i am so excited idk what to do with myself im all over the place right now and i just want it to get here. i know that he probably will give it to me a short time after it gets here because he says he wants to be offically engaged already but i hope he does it in a romantic way.

    enough blabbering, i just cant contain this exictment i feel like a kid that cant sleep on christmas eve lol

    Post # 6
    Member
    493 posts
    Helper bee

    I definitely go in and out. I think that most times I’m anxious and impatient (in a good way) because I want to plan and share it with the world. And then other days I’m really impatient (in a bad way) where I’m upset that it hasn’t happened yet and resent my SO because I have to see other people get engaged, married, have children, etc. So a little bit of both for me. My SO has had the ring for 10 weeks now and I’m just so ready for him to do it. I think I’ve lost a lot of the excitement because I have been waiting so long (over a year). I think that the engagement, planning, etc. will bring it all back.

    Post # 7
    Member
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted for ‘Both’, although lately I’ve been really excited because I know the ring has been ordered, and J has asked permission from my dad. Here’s hoping I’m engaged before Hallowe’en (although, it wouldn’t surprise me if he proposed on Hallowe’en because it’s my favorite holiday. EVER).

    Gwen.

    Post # 8
    Member
    266 posts
    Helper bee

    @GwenvonD: so happy for u and when it happens please post 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @FEFE215: Will do!

    Gwen

    Post # 11
    Member
    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I voted both. Most days I’m excited and there are a few anxious days sprinkled in. We talked about getting engaged about a year ago so I feel like I’ve been excited for a very long time, I’m sure it just feels that way to me though because there are Bees who’ve been waiting much longer. I’m hoping I don’t have much longer to wait!

    Post # 12
    Member
    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    For years I was in the anxious phase. Unfortunately, most of our talks had not gone super well. Not that he didn’t want to marry me, but he wouldn’t talk in detail about our future, he said vague things that made me think he hadn’t really thought about our future really realistically. It was disheartening. And most days I just tourtured myself with the idea that maybe he didn’t love me enough to take that step, and was I wasting time on a guy who would never commit, but I loved him and didn’t want to leave, blah blah.

    BUT after our last talk he basically said, yes, I’ve decided I want to marry you and let’s get this show on the road. Since then it’s been like everything is on fastforward. We’ve already been ring shopping once, we’ve got one more place to check out, he’s got a budget, he’s planning on speaking to my dad, we even started looking at houses (totally separate discussion, but still a huge step)!

    And now I’m just plain excited. I’d still rather elope than have a huge wedding, but I can’t wait to take this next step in our lives together. Even if I’m still not 100% sure when he will actually propose. Haha. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Both here too!

    I was doing really well not really giving a hoot about it for awhile there, and then I got really anxious. But, I wasn’t anxious about “would he”, it was more about “when would he”. Every new day we spend together makes me realize we are always one day closer to being engaged and sometimes I just get overwhelmed with the reality that it COULD happen any time. We have had many talks about our future, and we know that we want to marry each other, we just want to have a little more (financial) stability first, so we’re waiting. I guess you could say we are unofficially engaged because we’ve both established we’d like to marry one another, but I don’t really run around saying that because that is the only thing that has been made definite. We haven’t done any planning outside of just talking what we would like “one day”.

    I know his mom is getting a little antsy though. She’s made several comments in the last year or so about it. And his uncle was all over it during our last family vacation (which we also attended a destination wedding during our trip for a couple who is younger than us).

    Post # 15
    Member
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee

    @sleepingbeauty88:  “unofficially engaged because we’ve both established we’d like to marry one another, but I don’t really run around saying that”. . .That TOTALLY sounds like us! 

    In spite of knowing that SO is the man I will marry, my impatient-self can’t help but wonder from time to time if and when it will happen.  I think it’s totally normal to be a little anxious and excited. 

    Post # 16
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    485 posts
    Helper bee

    Well I know he wants to marry me, so I have days where I feel so excited about it. Then I have bad days where I think “Just do it already”. There are mixed feelings involved in the waiting game 😉 He’s worth the wait though.

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