Post # 1
Imagine you planning your wedding, then all of a sudden you get invited to your distant cousins wedding which is held a month earlier than yours IN THE SAME VENUE as yours. Everyone in family, uncles, aunts, etc are invited. Although her wedding is a month earlier, same venue, it will still be in a different banquet room. Will it make you upset?
Post # 3
i would be bummed out about it, but not upset. it’s a distant cousin, not someone close, and if you live in the same area it’s not unreasonable that they would have similar taste in venues. unless the cousin new your date, new your venue, didn’t have a date or venue previously, and went out of their way to do that, i would just think that sucks and try to let it go. your day will be special no matter what, even if it’s the same place and many of the same people
Post # 4
I would be really bummed out but you can’t control everything:(
Post # 5
Honestly, I would shrug it off. Did she know? Even if she did, maybe this was really where she wanted to have it as well. I’m from Detroit and one of my best friends and I are both total history nerds. We both really wanted to get married in the Henry Ford Mansion. And if it weren’t under restoration for about a 3-4 year period, I’m sure we both would have too! And neither of us would have been upset about it, because its part of who we are, and what we like about the other.
Maybe this could actually be a great opportunity to get to know your distant cousin better. You might have more in common than you originally realized. And even if you don’t, teaming up and talking wedding/venue stuff seems like a great way to bond!
Post # 6
I’d shrug it off, but it would still upset me. I think I’d go to the wedding with a bitter taste in my mouth, but try to ignore it as much as possible.
On the plus side, you get to see a full wedding at your venue just prior to yours and will know what changes to make to make your day even more wonderful!
Post # 7
we both had no idea of the other.
Post # 8
I would hate it, I think I would frantically find out what her details are and make sure they are different – not to try and show her up, just so that its your day. Do you share any other vendors?
Post # 9
I think if you’ve made choices that show your respective personalities, it will be fine.
Post # 10
sucks because even though a month a part, one will have the bigger room and other medium room. Although same family members, I’m sure same food, same bathrooms, don’t think we have same vendors. I just hope family or my cousin dont’ compare. Although a bit bummed, will make the best of it.
Post # 11
@SamanthaLovesJames: Chances are -everything will be different but the actual place. It’s not even in the same room, correct? Yours will also be different because you are different. Plus all these will be different.–Your dress, your jewelry, hair, your colors, your decor–esp. your groom 😉
Years ago, two cousins of mine wore the same gown-No one noticed-because they looked different on each bride!
Post # 12
it is a bummer but take it as a learning experience! think of her wedding as the trial run and learn from her wedding how to make yours even better!
can I ask what the name of your venue is? maybe I’ve seen it from when I was looking for venues
Post # 13
I woudl see if there was anything you could share the cost on…
Post # 14
@SamanthaLovesJames: i would just think of it like a trial run. you can see what the venue does well, or poorly and make adjustments to your own day.
it would not upset me, other than giving up a weekend day so close to my own wedding. i’d imagine you would have other last minute things to do that week.