A mouthful of a name…?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

llevinso :  I think it’s too much name. I think you should do what your origally decided: kids have your husband’s last name. My opinion comes from the fact that I have a long last name and it’s annoying.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Too much name.  If it’s important for you to have your name in there, then dump the selected middle name (maybe save it for a future second child?) 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I do think it’s a bit much and can cause confusion. Like, I wouldn’t be surprised if people called him Victor F. simply because they thought Frederickson was a first last name (instead of second middle name).

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I’m planning to do the same thing, actually! For us, the syllable count would be 2-4-3-2 for the four names (at least for our current favorite name). I say go for it. Like you said, they’ll probably hardly ever use the third name, unless they need to give their full legal name for passports etc; that’s the only place where it might get tricky, but long names are common in many cultures, and your kid won’t be the first to have to deal with it, so I’m sure you can prep him for those situations with some research.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I’d have to say it doesn’t really matter. I can’t remember a time in recent history when I’ve had to tell someone my whole name…middle names usually only show up on forms/documents (even then it’s often initialed). I think “Victor J.F Vanderbilt” doesn’t sound bad at all, either. 

My only other thought is, if you have any more children would you also want them to have your last name somewhere? Like, do you think they’d feel “left out” or something if they don’t? No wrong answer there of course, that’s just something that I know I’d have to think about, personally. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Me and my siblings were all given our mom’s maiden name as our middle name instead of a “traditional” middle name.  Could you do that instead?  I personally think 4 names is a mouthfull.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you like it, I say go for it. Middle names are rarely used and usually only in formal or legal settings. People have “junior” or “the third” attached to their names and we don’t think anything of it. He can always use initials in the future if he feels like it’s too much.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think it’s a lot of name personally, but it’s really up to you. I kept my last name and our son has my husband’s last name. He said the second one could have my last name if I wanted, but I think that seems overly complicated. 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Living abroad and having to fill out a lot of paperwork just to exist here, having such a long name would make that paperwork even more complicated. I have 14 letters total in first middle last name and even that feels a faff sometimes  (and more names creates more opportunities for mistakes to be made by people copying down the names).

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It’s too much IMO. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

That’s what my name is. First name, Middle name, Second middle name/Mom’s last name, Last name/Dad’s last name. Plus my last name is pretty long, so yeah, overall my name is long… but I love it. To my knowledge its never really cause any confusion. Lot of cultures have long names/more than 3, so I don’t think its unusual. This is my plan for my own children as well! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Well…is it a last name that screams last name (like Fredrickson) or could it also be a first name (like Montgomery or Jefferson)? I think that would be part of my choice. 

I don’t think it’s a problem on principle. You’ll probably have a lot of people confused early on, but by the time the child is in school, I doubt it’ll even be noticed.

But…since you want to give it to all your kids, you’re using it like a last name. Why not just make it one? I understand your dislike for hyphenated or dual last names, but that seems like a strange reason to kind of dance around it with a last/middle name.

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