Post # 1
We’re on month six trying and after four months of full on charting, I’m done. I’m a type A planner chick..and I’ve done it all, opk’s, cp, temps, multiple apps. Four months charting and three of them I was sick around/during FW so the temps are all wacky. I never got a great solid temp shift, but you know what…that’s okay and doesn’t mean anything really. I got +OPK’s…and some upwards temps and FF rewarded me with CH every month and I’ve decided to let that be enough. I had originally thought it would mean a lot to have 9 months or so worth of charting to walk into my doctor’s office with…but now I know that most of the time they start with blood tests and SA and that’s pretty much standard…and then you go from there. I’m breathing a little easier thinking this way. I wake up and take my temp and then worry about the lines and the rise or shift or lack thereof. I asked DH tonight what he would think if I just gave it all up and we just had a lot of sex (I know when i have fertile CM). He hugged me and said sure. We talked a little more and he said he understood why I had wanted to because it was “doing some thing”. I asked if it had made it not fun for him and his answer was “you kind of made it a math problem”. That both surprised me and didn’t. I’ve felt the same way, worrying about temps, hauling OPK’s in my purse to work, waking up early to temp on weekends and I’m just done. I’ve learned a ton about my body through all of this and now I’m ready to just listen to my body and let it go….Cue Idina Menzel…I mean Adel Dazeem. So here’s to more wine, more fun in the bedroom, enjoying the holidays and hopefully a more relaxed mind and body. If it turns out there is a problem, and we’re still at it at the 1yr mark, I’ll check in with my obgyn. For me that would be June, and that’s honestly a long ways off! I wish all of you charting ladies the best and i totally get why you do what you do…just a personal choice for me…and thought I’d share in case someone else is feeling the same way.
Post # 2
We just started TTC this month, and felt very behind about not charting or knowing what is going on with my body in-between AF. I think it is awesome that you have a great idea of what is going on, and that is really all you need! Charting is a tool and can be very beneficial I’m sure, but when it starts driving you crazy feel free to put it aside. 100% agree to the wine and relaxation! Good luck, and I hope it happens very soon for you two!
Post # 3
I just guesstimate when I’m fertile based on estimated timing and how horny I feel…. I don’t think I could be organized enough to chart. We’re on 7 cycles trying like this, and although I’d really hoped I would have a BFP by now, I’m also not going to let it dictate my life. I’ve gotten to do and enjoy some pretty cool stuff over the last few months that I wouldn’t have if I were pregnant.
Post # 4
this is the reason I posted a thread about tips for not getting stressed out during ttc ( I could forsee charting and temping stressing me out even though I haven’t done either). I’ve heard alot of stories of couples going with flow or choosing to focus on other things and bamn they get pregnant. im in agreeance with having lots of sex, drinking wine and enjoying time with the husband, cuz it may not be that way in a little while. Wishing you all the best.
Post # 5
This was helpful, because I’m just at the beggining of my charting (this is my second month of it) and I’m already totally consumed by it. I catch myself looking at the chart twice a day, even after I enter my temp and info. I think I’m a similar personality type where I want to “solve the problem” and go all in right away. My DH thinks we should just relax and not worry or “try too hard” until we’ve tried for a good while. I guess I feel responsible for making it happen. I’ll probably keep charting until I feel like I have a good handle on my cycle, but will try to check myself into not getting too sucked in because I can already see the difference between my stress levels during the TTW and in the first two weeks of my cycle when I don’t care and drink wine and relax. Cheers to enjoying the holidays and relaxing!
Post # 6
So here’s to more wine, more fun in the bedroom, enjoying the holidays and hopefully a more relaxed mind and body.
^ That was my favorite line! I will resume TTC in January- got pregnant in June on cycle 2, but had a mmc in September. I decided to take time off, reevaluate how I’m feeling about everything, and start over. I didn’t chart, mostly because I stress about everything, and I have enough stress in my life right now- my company was bought out last year and I had to re-interview for the job I’ve had for 4 years (nailed it, though!), we’re closing on a house next month, not to mention the devastating start we had to TTC. I want to be able to make this somewhat fun for my husband and myself, and I know that I would be too consumed with data. I plan on BDing as much as possible, keeping track of my periods and enjoying my marriage until a baby comes along. If we have trouble, we will consult further with my doctor. I totally respect the charters, and give them a lot of credit. It is very important to understand your body and the way it works. And I do, I just want making a baby to be a bit more laid-back because we have already been through so much. I sometimes feel intimidated by how informed a lot of the bees are about all of this, I just know a more relaxed approach is a better fit for me. I wish you the best of luck on your journey! Cheers to enjoying some wine over the holidays! 😉
Post # 7
Yes! I feel like I got what I was going to get out of charting, even though I didn’t get “perfect temps” like some people do..I learned about CM and I’m kind of embarrassed to admit I’m an RN, but didn’t know about luteal phase length being the driving force of cycle length etc…mind blowing stuff, honestly!
I’m all for the guesstimating. I figure from my CM and when I feel in the mood…it’s mid monthish…a couple weeks into my cycle or so. I’ve got a new app, this time a period tracker. I think I’d like to keep track of my cycle length and maybe make notes on which days we do the deed. That’s about it! As an
Great attitude on charting to learn and then giving it up when it no longer serves your purposes!
Sounds like you could use all the stress-reduction possible! Hope things go smoothly for you!
exactly! Hopefully it won’t be just us for long…but we’ll enjoy it while we’ve got it!
Post # 8
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I’m glad you are figuring out what works best for you. I’m officially done charting, too. BUT cahrting was useful. Our RE looked at them, saw that I was consistently ovulating, and said that we won’t need to do day 21 bloodwork because she could already see from my charts the same information the bloodwork would have told her. So charting wasn’t in vain. But now, when charting depresses me more than anything, I’m okay with letting it go.
So cheers to sleeping on the weekend without that pesky alarm clock!
Post # 9
I am in the quitting group. It got too emotionally difficult, bc it made me start every day for 6 months thinking about TTC. It has now been 8 cycles of BFNs, despite ovulation and perfectly timed intercourse, and it got to feeling not fun. So I talked to DH, and since my cycles are regular and I can see CM, I quit the actual charting. It wont give me more info than I have… And if we have to see an RE, so be it, I have 6 charts and I am done.
Post # 10
good for you recognizing where your limit was and going for what works for you!
I’m glad there was a silver lining to the charting for you! So excited that this weekend we have no commitments and I can actually sleep in! (if the pups let me…our 1yr old German shepherd mix has a wicked howl!)
Post # 11
Good for you, love! As soon as my VIP membership is over, I am quitting as well. Here’s to some jingle babies!
Post # 13
I just started temping this past cycle and I already am planning to give it up… but I may give it one more cycle & see how it goes! I’m suppose to receive AF yesterday but didn’t receive it just yet, idk if I even ovulated because my chart is all over the place… I don’t even know if it’s anovulatory cycle or I’m just not getting a good accurate temp. Who knows but Im sure I’m going to give up temping soon too.
Post # 14
after a year, I’m out. My OB/GYN didn’t care about it, and neither do my RE’s. I more or less know when I’m going to ovulate through opks and cm, and I’m pretty regular. The times I did get pregnant, it was using opks and myperiodtracker -a very basic calendar. I’m also on femara for the next two cycles with trigger shots, so there’s really no point anyway. It was interesting, though, and I’d consider it to avoid getting pregnant.
Post # 15
I think charting can be useful but once I had an idea of the CM and all, it just all became stressful when the temps didn’t match. And in the famous words of sweet brown, “ain’t nobody got time for that!)
I hear jingle babies come from spiked eggnog. 😉
thanks for sharing! Yeah my obgyn is pretty laid back, in a good way, so I don’t think she would care either.
Friday night is date night and after a stressful last couple weeks, a pitcher of margaritas and gourmet tacos with DH tonight sounds awesome!