(Closed) A new approach to TTC….from charting to a more relaxed approach.

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We just started TTC this month, and felt very behind about not charting or knowing what is going on with my body in-between AF.  I think it is awesome that you have a great idea of what is going on, and that is really all you need!  Charting is a tool and can be very beneficial I’m sure, but when it starts driving you crazy feel free to put it aside.  100% agree to the wine and relaxation! Good luck, and I hope it happens very soon for you two!

Post # 3
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I just guesstimate when I’m fertile based on estimated timing and how horny I feel…. I don’t think I could be organized enough to chart.  We’re on 7 cycles trying like this, and although I’d really hoped I would have a BFP by now, I’m also not going to let it dictate my life.  I’ve gotten to do and enjoy some pretty cool stuff over the last few months that I wouldn’t have if I were pregnant.

Post # 4
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

HeyJude72:  this is the reason I posted a thread about tips for  not getting stressed out during ttc ( I could forsee charting and temping stressing me out even though I haven’t done either). I’ve heard alot of stories of couples going with flow or choosing to focus on other things and bamn they get pregnant. im in agreeance with having lots of sex, drinking wine and enjoying time with the husband, cuz it may not be that way in a little while.  Wishing you all the best.

Post # 5
42 posts


HeyJude72:  This was helpful, because I’m just at the beggining of my charting (this is my second month of it) and I’m already totally consumed by it. I catch myself looking at the chart twice a day, even after I enter my temp and info. I think I’m a similar personality type where I want to “solve the problem” and go all in right away. My Darling Husband thinks we should just relax and not worry or “try too hard” until we’ve tried for a good while. I guess I feel responsible for making it happen. I’ll probably keep charting until I feel like I have a good handle on my cycle, but will try to check myself into not getting too sucked in because I can already see the difference between my stress levels during the TTW and in the first two weeks of my cycle when I don’t care and drink wine and relax. Cheers to enjoying the holidays and relaxing!


Post # 6
1035 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So here’s to more wine, more fun in the bedroom, enjoying the holidays and hopefully a more relaxed mind and body.

^ That was my favorite line! I will resume TTC in January- got pregnant in June on cycle 2, but had a mmc in September. I decided to take time off, reevaluate how I’m feeling about everything, and start over. I didn’t chart, mostly because I stress about everything, and I have enough stress in my life right now- my company was bought out last year and I had to re-interview for the job I’ve had for 4 years (nailed it, though!), we’re closing on a house next month, not to mention the devastating start we had to TTC. I want to be able to make this somewhat fun for my husband and myself, and I know that I would be too consumed with data. I plan on BDing as much as possible, keeping track of my periods and enjoying my marriage until a baby comes along. If we have trouble, we will consult further with my doctor. I totally respect the charters, and give them a lot of credit. It is very important to understand your body and the way it works. And I do, I just want making a baby to be a bit more laid-back because we have already been through so much. I sometimes feel intimidated by how informed a lot of the bees are about all of this, I just know a more relaxed approach is a better fit for me. I wish you the best of luck on your journey! Cheers to enjoying some wine over the holidays! 😉

Post # 8
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I’m glad you are figuring out what works best for you. I’m officially done charting, too. BUT cahrting was useful. Our RE looked at them, saw that I was consistently ovulating, and said that we won’t need to do day 21 bloodwork because she could already see from my charts the same information the bloodwork would have told her. So charting wasn’t in vain. But now, when charting depresses me more than anything, I’m okay with letting it go.

So cheers to sleeping on the weekend without that pesky alarm clock!

Post # 9
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am in the quitting group. It got too emotionally difficult, bc it made me start every day for 6 months thinking about TTC. It has now been 8 cycles of BFNs, despite ovulation and perfectly timed intercourse, and it got to feeling not fun. So I talked to Darling Husband, and since my cycles are regular and I can see CM, I quit the actual charting. It wont give me more info than I have… And if we have to see an RE, so be it, I have 6 charts and I am done. 

Post # 11
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Good for you, love! As soon as my VIP membership is over, I am quitting as well. Here’s to some jingle babies!

Post # 13
375 posts
Helper bee

HeyJude72:  I just started temping this past cycle and I already am planning to give it up… but I may give it one more cycle & see how it goes! I’m suppose to receive AF yesterday but didn’t receive it just yet, idk if I even ovulated because my chart  is all over the place… I don’t even know if it’s anovulatory cycle or I’m just not getting a good accurate temp. Who knows but Im sure I’m going to give up temping soon too. 

Post # 14
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

HeyJude72:  after a year, I’m out. My OB/GYN didn’t care about it, and neither do my RE’s. I more or less know when I’m going to ovulate through opks and cm, and I’m pretty regular. The times I did get pregnant, it was using opks and myperiodtracker -a very basic calendar. I’m also on femara for the next two cycles with trigger shots, so there’s really no point anyway. It was interesting, though, and I’d consider it to avoid getting pregnant.

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