Post # 16
This thread has convinced me to not chart – at least at the outset. I’m very controlling and I like to have everything in hand, but I know how I am and I will overdo it. I was going to start charting immediately, but now I think I’m going to just see how it goes for the first 6 months (with nothing more than watching my CM and lots of sex) and then reconsider my options.
Thank you so much for this.
Post # 17
I fully support this approach, and I am someone who needed fertility treatments. We had sex normally for a year without protection, I didn’t get pregnant, and so I saw an RE. He didn’t ever ask me if I had any charting info — he just wanted to know my period history (which I do keep track of, because sometimes I’ll go 3 months without a period, in which case I have to induce it). Once you see an RE (if it ever comes to that) s/he conducts a bunch of tests to diagnose any issue, and you go from there.
I never saw the point of charting (for me), but I get that for some people, it’s what they want & gives them information and a feeling of control. I’m not knocking it in general; it just wasn’t for me. I’ve read repeatedly that if you have sex 2-3 times per week, that’s enough to ensure that you’ll have sperm in you when you ovulate. So, that’s what we did.
And this time around, by the way (2nd pregnancy), we used the same relaxed approach and got pregnant right away.
Post # 18
DH and I have removed the goalie but are not actively trying per se. I really don’t want to take the fun out of everything and trying to take control of what is going to happen.
I just went off BCPs in the beginning of October and got my period right on cue the first month after going off BCP. I even thought I felt a twinge of pain on my right side last month (right around day 14) and this month, I had the pain on the left side yesterday (also day 14).
I am totally fine just learning what it is like to feel my body without being on BCP. If it does happen in the next few months, it will be a welcomed surprise but we aren’t actively trying.
Post # 19
Good luck with the new relaxed outlook! It certainly sounds pleasant 😉 I’m a charter (or was, before getting pregnant, and will be after – we use it for TTA and TTC) but I really can’t fathom how some of the ladies on here manage the temping, the OPKs, the apps, and everything else. That is waaaaaay too much work for this girl! I watch my CM throughout the day, note it down at night, and call it good.
Enjoy your drinks and tacos – that sounds like a wonderful evening!
Post # 20
Right on! I refuse to chart as I was worried it would cause me to obsess and take away from the whole experience. I also have confirmed with my RE that I ovulate, and my OPK’s have not steered me wrong with confirming my surge. I watch as women on these boards and others disintegrate every month obsessing over post O temps…feeling positive and hopeful one day to super sad the next, and I really just don’t understand why anyone should put themselves through that pain unless there is an issue like PCOS where it would be more necessary to confirm.
The one month I got pregnant was the one month where all I did were OPK’s, and even when I got a positive, we only BD’d when we wanted to. It ended up being two times in my fertile window instead of the usual 4 or 5, and guess what, it worked. I didn’t even care to POAS until AF was late. Could be a fluke, who the hell knows, but kinda makes you wonder if all the crap we put ourselves through does any good. Good luck to you, hope you get some good results soon!
P.S. I go to a very well known RE in Colorado, and even he has never once mentioned or asked about charting…I’ve actually never had one ask except for my old GYN who just mentioned that I shouldn’t do it!