(Closed) A non-guest asked me if he was invited…..and he’s not. What do I do?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

tell him you guys are limiting to close family and friends?

Post # 4
2542 posts
Sugar bee

Blame it on the venue. Say you’re at maximum capacity and can’t invite anyone else.

Post # 5
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Yup, I’d go with the old standby excuse of venue capacity limitations or “intimate family and friends gathering” – unless, of course, that isn’t remotely true and you know the information will get back to him somehow (through people or photos or whatnot).

Post # 6
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I tell people sorry, it’s a small wedding. Or something along those lines…

Post # 7
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’d say its immediate family and only close friends.. im sure theyd understand..

we ran into the SAME problem and thats what we said and people seemed to respond fine to it..

Good luck!

Post # 8
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Exactly. Tell him you’re keeping it to “family and close friends” and leave it at that.

Post # 9
132 posts
Blushing bee

I had an old friend that I haven’t really kept in good touch with invite himself to my wedding.  He even sent me his address without my asking for it.  At the time, we were planning on keeping it really small and I didn’t know what we were going to do.  I was planning on telling him the truth – that we were keeping things really small.  I don’t think he would have been offended, but I still would have felt bad.

Then we decided to make it bigger, so he will be invited now.  Not because he invited himself, though.  I say just be honest about it.  I mean, don’t give the whole laundry list of reasons that might stir up drama.  But don’t lie about it either.  The truth can be told in a way that doesn’t cause trouble.  And if he gets upset about it, then it’s his problem and not yours.

Post # 10
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yup, small wedding works every time.

Post # 12
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t respond.

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