(Closed) A party the day after the wedding?! Advice please!

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should we go to a party the next night for those that weren't invited to the wedding?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    17 %
    No : (4 votes)
    33 %
    Ask to have the party another weekend : (6 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    581 posts
    Busy bee

    “I’m sorry Grandma, but we have other obligations for the day after the wedding.  We will make every effort to connect with the cousins at the reception.”

    That would be my response.       Don’t you love families?

    Post # 5
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    581 posts
    Busy bee

    I missed the uninvited part, sorry.

    Is there a way to invite them to the brunch?  That may be the easiest way to placate Grandma.

    You are not being unreasonable in wanting to spend your wedding weekend as planned.  If there is no relationship now, there probably won’t be much of one in the future–even if you do make the effort to connect with them.

    I’m sorry you are being put in this position.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I definitely think you should stick to your guns and not go to the party. Yes, it’s important to know your family, but the day after your wedding is not the only opportunity in your lifetime to do this. I think that especially because you are delaying your honeymoon, you need and deserve to have the next day free together, just the two of you. I would just apologize and say that you are sorry that you cannot accomodate them for the wedding, but that you also have plans for the next day. Your wedding shouldn’t come with a lot of extra social obligations that you aren’t interested in.

    Post # 7
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    don’t do it. enjoy your extra night at the hotel 🙂 you wont regret it!

    Post # 8
    Member
    581 posts
    Busy bee

    “I’m sorry Grandma, but we have other obligations for the day after the wedding, I have something special planned for my husband/wife.”

    I’ll stand by that answer.  It can be used by either one of you! Wink

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you just need to let her know that you will be busy the next few days after the wedding, what with still visiting with your Out of Town guests and revelling in the fact that y’all just got married.  Tell her you would love to meet the rest of the family and that you can do so on another weekend. 

    Post # 11
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Good luck!  And, stick to your guns and plans.  G’ma is definitely trying to assert her power here.

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