Post # 1
My fiance and I want to elope – due to family reasons as well as our smaller budget – marriage and honeymoon overseas. While I want this too, I am a little apprehensive of offending the families and coming away with regrets years down the track. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter where we marry, so long as we do, but I was just hoping I could hear from your personal experiences or thoughts.
Post # 2
kaiiibeee: We are eloping. Don’t know when or where, but have decided to do it one day while we’re away on vacation. My family knows this. Dunno about his side. He’s not as close to his family as I am mine though.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
It sounds like you don’t really want to elope. If your family really matters to you, do a small courthouse ceremony and invite your parents.
Post # 4
Christy42213: I love my family very much but my family has its significant complications – enough so that eloping really is the better alternative – but I guess that I just have to come to terms with the fact that I won’t be able to get married with all sets of parents in the same place. Thanks for the advice 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
We are eloping and very excited about it too. Originally we had a bigger more traditional wedding planned but over time the added cost and stress was just getting to us. The solution- elope to a place we’ve never been but always wanted to go. We’re taking a long weekend, bringing our 2 closest friends as witnesses, and getting married at the beach on our little romantic getaway. My only regret- not doing this sooner because I wouldn’t have lost the deposit to the venue!
Post # 6
We’re “planning” an elopement too- we’re not even engaged yet! But we started seriously talking about getting married last year. We both wanted a traditional wedding, but the more I thought about it the more I realized that it wasn’t going to happen. We have very large families and having a reception for at least 150 people in Orange County is really expensive. So I convinced him that we should have a “weddingmoon”. He wanted a honeymoon in the Caribbean so I researched wedding packages offered by some of the resorts and found one that’s free if you stay for two weeks- which is what we wanted to do in the first place! So it’ll be just us two in Jamaica next summer. We already started saving for it. I called it a “planned” elopement because it won’t be a surprise; most of my family already knows what we’re planning and surprisingly no one is that upset about it! We’re thinking of having a party at our house when we get back, that way it’s less formal and significantly more affordable.
Post # 7
We eloped on Monday!!! Best decision ever!!!!!
Post # 9
Offence may be caused by eloping. But equally, you have to weigh that up against the potential grief that planning the wrong sort of wedding is going to cause YOU.
Post # 10
We are eloping and don’t care how anyone feels about it. It’s up to us to decide how we want to get married. As for planning it, we have to wait 24 hours after getting our marriage license, but the license is good for a month, so it’ll be a little planned. However, we did decide that we’ll get the license and do it randomly within the month time limit.
Post # 11
We are having a planned elopement too. We were originally going to have a traditional church wedding and reception but I was tired of everyone giving me their 2 cents about how things should be done. Then, my FSIL (FI’s sister who is a good friend of mine) got engaged a couple of months after us and planned her wedding the month before we were going to get married. It caused all sorts of problems between FI and his mom, so we talked about it and just decided we would “elope” and have our honeymoon at the same time, then have a celebration party when we return. At first we got a lot of crap from our families but we didn’t care. This feels right for us and now that it’s getting closer (October) our families are starting to show some excitement for our celebration party.
Post # 12
We are having a planned elopement due to a variety of things (budget, family potentially being a pain, etc.)
We have yet to tell any family members but our close friends know and are excited for us. To include everyone we are planning a low key bakyards BBQ type of thing when we get back. This will make it #1 easy on the budget 2# not that intricate to plan, so there are minimal fears about family drama
Post # 13
Eloped in July 2012. Best thing I ever did. It was thrilling getting married without anyone knowing!
Family/friends might be disappointed at first, but they’ll get over it. If not, then the problem is theirs, not yours.
Post # 14
I have always wanted to elope (strange, I know!). BUT, I am going to ask my parents how they feel. I’m an only child and so is my SO, I feel like it’s only right to be sensitive to that. I don’t want to elope because we have family issues, just that it’s more our style and has always sounded so much more romantic to me. To be perfectly honest I find a lot about weddings to be overdone and tacky. However, if it’s really important to one of the parents, I’m open to having a very small, very low-key wedding.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2015 - The beach.
kaiiibeee: I think eloping would be the best! Your marriage is all about you and your FI, so hopefully your family will understand that and support you through it. I honestly thought my FI’s family and my family would be mad at us, but when we told them we were planning to elope overseas, they actually were all very happy for us! Best of luck in your desicion!