(Closed) A plea to brides who let their bridesmaids choose their own dresses!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@ENarcy: LOL that happened to me too. I kept reassuring them that I want them to be happy, as long as they have the right color and hemline (knee) then I’m happy!! 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow… that’s…. just wow.  sorry you gotta deal with this!

I just told the girls to “wear a costume”.  

I have one who picked out what she wanted instantly.  Another who spent one night asking me “what about this?  what about this?  what about this?”  Ummmm…. I said “whatever you want as long as it’s found in the fictional section of a bookstore/movie section”.  

Geez, one Groomsmen is coming as indiana jones (complete with borrowed whip from my FI), one is coming in his tartan with amoror and weaponry (yes, there will be jokes about what is/is not worn beneath it), another is coming as Han Solo from Return of the Jedi or Bladerunner (he’s still debating).  My son and nephews are coming as characters from our novels, and my daughter will be a princess (obviously).  

there IS NO SPECIFIC COSTUME REQUIREMENT!!!!!  I’m not worried about them “upstaging the bride”.  I’m the bride, duh.  Kinda hard to outshine the bride, even if they wear a killer costume.  I’m STILL gonna be the center of attention. 😛

Is it really THAT hard to find a costume?  Really?  

 

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am a bride and my girls have yet to get their dresses – but they are picking them

I just asked that they be floor length, black and the rest is up to them – I don’t care if their all different – as long as they feel comfortable in them. I wouldn’t want someone picking my wedding dress for me and if I didn’t like it still be expected to wear it…

As long as they are the color and length that the bride as requested – the rest should be up the bridemaid. Not all body shapes look good in the same dress.

I am a bit stressed that our day is in 7 months and the girls have not bought one up but there is still time and I’m sure no one will show up in a black potatoe sack LOL

Best of luck BM’s and MOH’s <3

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can I add a caveat:

 

A plea to bridesmaids who are allowed to pick their own dresses:

Just because your friend is being very flexible on this point does not mean that you should try to take advantage and push it. If she says No Strapless without Special Circumstances, please don’t insist that the ONLY dress that you look good in is strapless. When she says “neutral shoes” please don’t choose sparkely ones and be pissy about it.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am a bride that has told my girls to pick their own dress. I don’t need to be there when they do, I don’t care where they get them from. All I said was that I wanted it to be their version of a “little black dress”. What is in their budget and what makes them feel comfortable. Only thing I specified was that I wanted them no longer then mid calf. I am making the flower hair accessory and we will all be wearing the same one and we voted on black or purple shoes for them and we chose all purple shoes, including me. I am going to even research and find the purple shoes and will help if someone can’t afford them.

I will NOT be nit picking through out whatever they chose. That’s why I didn’t chose a dress, I didn’t want to deal with it lol

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

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@Zinzerena: Can I come to your wedding? It sounds AMAZING.

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@winter.wedding2011: Wow! That’s exactly what I told my girls too. They just can’t seem to accept that they can do whatever they want. . . They keep trying to find a dress they all want to wear (I said they could if they wanted to, I’m regretting that now), and asking my opinion when they find something. Sigh.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Crisark: I gave mine basically the same requirements for little black dresses, and just said they should be knee-length. I agree, I don’t want to agonize over every selection–that’s why I told them to pick in the first place!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@MM423: Exactly, I have enough to worry about ! lol

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@Keltaena: lol, we’re hoping it will be!!!  I’ve been blogging it and I’m hoping to KEEP blogging it as I do more and more stuff!  My dream: to be a Bee!!!!  

I’ve got soooo many projects to do, I think my kids and Fiance are gonna either go nuts or threaten to put me in a rubber room 😉  I do have a friend who’s offered to help but… just not sure what she can do! LOL!  (I could be evil and tell her if she really wants to help, she can watch the kids, hehehehehehe)

 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

If she is going to be micromanaging she should have just picked out one dress to have you all wear. If she wanted the different dresses look then she should have picked 3 or so dresses for you all to wear and you each choose the one that you each liked for yourself.

 

I was in a wedding where the bride tried to tell me what eye shadow color to wear and all the BMs were going to match. Atleast that is not happening. It was bad enough that we all had the same hairstyle and it mathed the bride. Can you say clones?

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@Beansy: thanks for mentioning that – the only reason my girls are having difficulty is because I have one who has GGG breast – one with NO breasts and one Bridesmaid or Best Man who is a skinny gal but use to be big and now has “chicken flaps” for arms – so they all have their issues – hense why these dresses are so much drama LOL thanks for the understanding

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I totally understand LOL

that’s exactly what I want for my girls – they need length tho as it’s a winter wedding and here in my part of Canada – it’s sometimes MINUS 30 at that time of year LOL

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Keltaena I understand =(

not sure why any of them are procrastinating

Best of luck to you

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