(Closed) A polite request for Bee courtesy…

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

There was a post saying the same thing a few weeks ago, so clearly it is happening more as the Hive grows, and I totally agree. I always try to acknowledge responses to threads I start, and I think that the vast majority of WB posters do as well, which is perhaps why it’s more irksome when someone drops off their post completely. 

I’m bad with checking up on my older posts, though, I’ll be the first to admit that. Anything over a month I might easily miss. 

Post # 4
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It annoys me when people who are clearly not regular posters come on asking for advice never to be seen again. OR. They only come on when they need advice but never offers advice to others. Know what I mean?

Post # 5
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2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with you and I think you raise a great point – – One thing that kind of gets to me is when the Miss Bee bloggers ask for opinions etc..then we post a note on their blog post and don’t see any feedback…That I just don’t get – – if there isn’t any feedback then why are we reading/posting suggestion on your blog post…And yes the same goes for boards and the threads here for us threaders or for us non Blog Bees…..

Post # 6
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5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That’s a good point.  I usually try to follow up on my threads, just to make sure I haven’t missed any great advice. 

Post # 8
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can I make a confession? I’ve asked some questions, gotten great feedback, realized my idea was dumb thanks to the feedback, and kind of just wanted to let the thread die. So I’m definitely guilty of that.

Post # 9
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

I am guilty of doing this, so I’m glad you bring it up. I always read and appreciate responses, but sometimes, if I have nothing more to say than “Thanks for all the great ideas!” I feel like that’s a waste of a post and everyone who gave me advice has probably moved on. For bigger issues (family, relationships, etc) I usually do follow up, but didn’t think people cared about the smaller stuff. I’ll try to be better about it. 

Post # 10
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1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with Girlwitharing.  Sometimes if you just say ‘thanks!’ I’ve noticed then people think you got the advice you need and stop commenting.  But saying ‘thanks, keep it coming’ doesn’t always add much to the conversation and might be seen as thread bumping.  Sooo…. I usually try to comment back some, but I’m not going to constantly comment and once it’s off the main pages I feel like people are done with it and it’s time to let someone elses questions get answered. 

Post # 11
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Eh – there’s nothing wrong with thread bumping, especially if people aren’t responding to your thread with any advice. That’s my pet peeve if we’re talking about courtesy here. I hate when I have a legit question and some thread about nothing of substance has like 50+ responses. I’m a thread bumper and proud of it.

As far as the OP’s request is concerned, I think maybe some people (especially people who aren’t regular posters) are just popping on to get a question answered. They don’t live on Weddingbee like some of us so they just get their advice and move on with their life. It doesn’t offend me really but I won’t do it since it bugs people. Actually, I don’t do it now. So I’ll just go ahead and keep doing what I’m doing. As far as Blog posts, I think that part of the format of their blog entries requires that it end with a question, at least that’s how it seems to me. Some of them just plop a question there at the end and I don’t think they really are looking for responses, just following the usual format. Some are better about acknowledging responses than others.

Post # 12
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I don’t mind the thread bumping of a “thanks ladies – any more ideas, I can use the help” (as long as it’s not over-bumped). I usually try to acknowledge a thanks of the feedback .

I also REALLY would love it if peeps (mostly newbees) would take a look around the boards for the past 24hrs and see what thread topics are already out there. There’s been a lot of threads essentially asking the same Q’s (ex: there’s 2 threads right now about post wedding plans).

Post # 13
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

Mine was first!

Post # 14
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

That said, I think this is a great point and I’ll try to be more careful to do it as well.

Post # 15
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Dancy- Co-sign. PLEASE use the search bar. This board has tons of very imformative posts in the archives if you just search for them.

Post # 16
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

Yes, some topics just come up over and over…like “Best place to host your wedding website”, I saw that at least 3 times recently! 

 

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