(Closed) A post that may or may not be helpful

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
52 posts
Worker bee

actually, it helps me!! i totally get what your saying..like reminicing on the first kiss almost.

i was married once before so maybe this is why i get it…and you are right. i mean, i love love love this guy, but when the newness is over, its over! dont get me wrong, the familiarity and bond only gets stronger (memories, getting thru hard times, etc)

but i think i am going to take your advice (if this is how you meant it) and just ENJOY my time with my guy.

thanks and happy engagement and marriage to you!

Post # 4
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Thank you! This was helpful for me. I mean, it doesn’t mean that I don’t sometimes fluctuate into the resentment/anxiety (and thank you for acknowledging that reality, by the way)….but this did wake me up a bit to snap out of the depression and think of what I really enjoy about the relationship. And go for what I want.  We ended up booking a trip for Labor Day weekend just now, and I intend to enjoy every minute of it 🙂

Post # 5
1046 posts
Bumble bee

Sounds like you are having a little taste of the wedding blues. I have a feeling I will be in the same boat… I LOVE all of the planning and such. It’s such a bummer when it is all over.

Post # 6
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Good point!  I’m right in the thick of the waiting game, complete with the sudden bouts of moodiness and resentment, and I’m trying to hold on to the ‘excitement’ part of it and enjoy the anticipation as much as I can.  The pre-engagement excitement and the proposal moment itself only happens once (I hope!), and I don’t want to just wish it over and done.  Plus, as my bride-to-be friends tell me, once you’re engaged, you have to plan a wedding!  From my perspective, that sounds great, but I know it’s not all butterflies and rainbows. 😉

Post # 7
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Definitely not offensive.  Not sure about helpful so much as I bounce between “I’m the luckiest woman in the world” and “Why won’t he make up his d*** mind?” – I appreciate my present status, but I’m looking forward to being ABLE to plan the next five years.

Thinking of which, I should go kiss and cuddle my fluffy-haired man.  😀

Post # 8
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Thank you for posting this.  I appreciate what you said and I am going to try to keep it in mind.  Smile

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