Post # 1
I’ll start this off by saying my feelings about this are likely a bit irrational. I’d just like to vent.
My Future Sister-In-Law and I got engaged within two weeks of each other. For most of the time we’ve been engaged, people have been focused on her wedding. I figured once her wedding was over, we’d get our little limelight.
Her shower and wedding came and went. It was a beautiful destination wedding in Jamaica in December! All through the month and the holidays I made an effort not to talk to people about our wedding, because I wanted Future Sister-In-Law and her husband to have their chance to shine. People continued fussing over them in to the new year.
At my shower, they showed a slideshow of all her professional wedding photos, which she had just gotten back, and it was the main topic of conversation the whole time. I figured our wedding would be something people would want to talk about at our shower, but I guess not.
Well, our wedding day is just 8 days away and I just received an email from Future Sister-In-Law annoucning that they are having a “Post Wedding Shower” in March. This kind of rubs me the wrong way because 1) They couldn’t wait a week to announce this? 2) We’re STILL celebrating your wedding 4 months later!? Really!?
I know that she is the first child to get married, but it just seems that no one is excited about our wedding at all. She’s had more than the whole year of being the center of attention and I guess I am kind of bummed that before, during and after my wedding, her marriage is so much more celebrated than mine is.
Post # 4
Good Lord! Enough is enough with this woman. What an attention ho
Post # 5
I have never heard of a post-wedding shower. What is the point of that? “I’m a married woman now, so buy me gifts”?
Post # 5
@ MichiganBride2012: LOL! You said what I was thinking.
Seriously, this girl seems to have some major insecurities! I’d feel the same way in your situation. Esp. right now – if you have as much stress as I do right now PLUS that? You’re due some major sympathy.
Post # 6
wait, they played a slideshow of her wedding pictures at your bridal shower? I would have been furious.
and what the hell is a ‘post-wedding’ shower?
Sounds like someone needs an ego check. Big time.
Post # 7
Uh, what? I would be completely upset about this too. I do not think you’re being irrational at all. Her wedding is over, it’s your turn! And what the hell is a “post wedding shower” anyway?
Post # 8
@hisgoosiegirl: Yeah. Everyone was really excited to see the pictures and I guess they figured this was as good a family gathering as any. They’re beautiful pictures, but it’s like no one even remembers that we’re getting married too :
Post # 9
It’s a shame that she’s doing this and that people are going along with it. Someone should have shut the slideshow down at your bridal shower. 🙁
Your feelings don’t seem irrational in the least.
Post # 10
heck, now it makes me wonder what she’ll do at your wedding! steal the mic to announce a ‘special dance for the sibling of the groom to celebrate their 2 month anniversary’? Special cake? Their own processional song?
Post # 11
Do you guys share mutual friends? If not, I’d just let her be and focus on your friends and family. Try not to let her get you down.
And what exactly is a post-wedding shower for anyways?
Post # 12
Well that sounds like a gift grab if I ever heard of one. Post showers work for babies since there’s actually something to show off. Post wedding showers make no sense to me. Did she not have a shower before her wedding and wants one now? The whole concept seems like a desperate cry for attention. It’s time for her to get over it and let you have your moment. She had her oppertunity.
Post # 13
I second everyone who wants to know what the hell a post-wedding shower is. Is this a thing now?
I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. FWIW, in my opinion, your feelings are completely justified. She had her day. She doesn’t need to keep cramming it down people’s throats four months later!
Post # 14
@misspeanut: The trouble is, people are just as excited as she is! No one feels like it’s been shoved down throats because everyone wants to keep celebrating it. I figured once you’re married people congratulate you and then move on with their lives, but people STILL seem so interested that she got married.
Post # 15
If it’s make you feel better, if I got invited to a shower for a wedding that happened 4 months prior I wouldn’t go. And I would call it (dare I say?), tacky.