- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Well, after giving it much thought, I decided to re-post my recap, without watermarks. I was thinking about the photo stealing business I have experienced in the past, and thought: screw it.
I was reflecting on the last few months, and how often I turned to the Bee for research, help, and suggestions – sharing them with you just doesn’t seem right. I feel like I owe it to you guys to share any ideas and inspiration that I can. Mostly I just want to show of the other DIY brides out there that it’s worth it! The photos are already floating around out there in the world wide web anyway… so pin them, copy them, save them, eat them. There are tons of beautiful weddings out there, ones that are much more extraordinary than mine – so why not?
Now I almost don’t want to post the photos because I have built it up to be waaay more than it really is! Haha! Since some of you may be reading this twice I thought I would include some of the stuff leading up to the wedding, and go into a little more detail!
We were married on a farm in Ontario, Canada on June 1st of this year. We had a 7PM ceremony, with desserts and dancing to follow. We did all of our photos prior to the ceremony so that we would be able spend more time with our guests. We also had a complimentary food truck come and serve our guests from 9PM – 12AM. We faced many challenges (in life and with regards to wedding planning) over the last year, so I was very relieved when the day finally arrived! We had many set backs (the dress, illness, weather and family problems) but in the end it was a beautiful day. What I love most about our photos is the genuine happiness seen on the faces of our friends and family – so many tears and smiles. There has never been a day where I felt more love.
Darling Husband and I met at my cousin’s wedding. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man he was an Usher. My cousin (the bride) is my best friend, and was my Maid/Matron of Honor. The groom is DH’s best friend, and was DH’s Best Man. We didn’t talk too much at their wedding, but I knew it was meant to be by the end of our first “date”. Darling Husband came to visit me (he lived out of town), and we were planned on spending a nice day together. Well, instead of a romantic day in the park, we ended up having to put my 17 year old wiener dog down. It was awful. BUT, I knew he was the one when he held my hand and let me cry on his shoulder in the car while we waited for my parents who were inside the vet’s office, putting my old pal to rest. The rest, as they say, is history.
Our wedding party planned an amazing Jack and Jill for us! In our circle 95% of engaged people have one, and they are always a wonderful time! Since Darling Husband is a sports nut, it was of course, sports themed! Everyone was told to dress in their favourite sports gear, but since I am not crazy about sports, I had to wear an apron and a button that said: “Baking is a sport” (I a lot of baking). The wedding party had hot dogs, potato chips, sports cookies, popcorn, and other crap for guests to eat. Everyone was busy playing games and making us doing embarrassing things (we had to switch clothes at one point!). They also had an AMAZING raffle table filled with sports tickets, gifts baskets, gift certificates and autographs. We had an amazing night, and raised a lot of money (we donated half of it to our local MS Society and donated the left over goodies to a shelter).
In the above photo, we had to complete a dare for a certain amount of money. This dare was to do a BODY SHOT OFF OF MY BROTHER. What the eff. I insisted that we use cups.
Maid/Matron of Honor, my Aunt (her Mom), and my Mom threw me an amazing bridal shower at a local hotel. 40 of my closest family and friends (mostly of the female gender!) showered me with beautiful gifts, and lots of laughter and love!
My nephew was the exception to the female only rule. I think he was only there for the cake. And given the size of the knife, he meant business! (He already had 3 cupcakes, much of which is still on his face)
Our wedding was very DIY centered. I don’t think I can stress how DIY it really was. I wanted to do a lot myself not only to save money, but because I do really enjoy “crafty things”. I wanted our day to ooze our personalities and to be causal, filled with happiness, and ringing with laughter. I guess you could say I was sort of going for a colourful carnival feel.
Our invitations were no exception to the DIY everything craziness. But, they were a labour of love.
The DIY flowed though most everything, including the gifts for our attendants.
These programs were a bitch, but they turned out alright! I was pleased when I saw a few guests reading them … and fanning themselves!
I started baking (and freezing) for the wedding March. 120 cupcakes, 100 mini pies and 120 donut cookies were just a few of the things to munch on. Thank heavens we had a deep freeze!
I had the world’s best MOH! Here she is nursing a burnt finger… with one of my favourite popsicals! Notice that she has been forced to complete a new task with the other hand! She (and her baby) spent the week before the wedding helping me with last minute stuff – including making candy apples!
All photos by Kristin Gibson Photography unless otherwise noted.
Before we knew it, it was wedding day! We were planning on having the ceremony outside, but the weather turned to shit that week. A heat wave + rain moved that thing inside! In the morning Darling Husband and I headed out to the barn to set up desserts, flowers, chairs, decorations etc. Thankfully some of our bridal party was there to help! Before we knew it, it was time for the guys to head to my brothers for an afternoon of basketball, and for us to head to the salon. I felt like my head was going to fall off.
[Personal Photo] My sweet Aunt went to my brother’s to take photos of the guys. This was after their two on two BB Tourney. Pretty sure we were running around like chickens with our heads cut off at this time.
We didn’t have any photos taken at the salon. It was more of a time for us to relax and eat our faces off. Eventually though, it was time to head to our house to get ready. Barf!
And the cameras are out and flashing away! Which is unfortunate for me, because I hate having my photo taken.
Darling Husband bought this for me when he heard that scents can trigger particular memories. Now when I wear this I will think of our day. (Well, that and bug spray!)
As a child, I always had a thing for Dorothy’s ruby slippers. What sparkly and magical shoes they were! When I started planning my “look” I knew I wanted sparkly shoes like Dorothy, only pink! I also knew that I wanted a shoe with a pointy toe, and no heel. Well, I did find something similar to my dream shoe, it was however, about $500 over budget. Well, I had a peek at the shoe board and that’s where I leared all about the wonderful world of stressing. Thousands of crystals and too many hours later they were ready to wear.
DIY Ring Box
I made this sash out of pieces of fabric from our Guestquilt, and from an old handkerchief of my late grandmother. It was nice to have a piece of her by my side on my wedding day.
Darling Husband bought these earrings for me after I changed the direction of my bridal look. I needed to make up for the fact that I wasn’t wearing a veil or headpiece!
This was my second dress. No, I didn’t have dress regret. I wish that was the reason. You can read all about that here.
I asked my girls to find pink/peach/rose/blush dresses. I didn’t care what length, material, or designer. I didn’t even see two of the dresses until they put them on! I think it worked out beautifully.
Helping Bridesmaid or Best Man K zip up.
Pretty maids all in a row.
This is my other best friend. My sweet Mom. I won’t start writing about how wonderful she is because this post is probably already an illegal length. Long story short, my Mom has CHF and MS, and has difficulty coping with everyday life. She lives in an apartment directly across the road from our house – and we love it! Her courage is so inspiring. She was so wonderful leading up to, and on the day of the wedding. I can’t imagine how physically painful and exhausting it must have been for her, but she was a trooper!
We were probably laughing about our earlier discussion of ways to conceal our double chins. And laughing more because laughing makes the chin situation worse.
DH’s only request regarding the wedding was that we get a photo of our Ralphie and I. His bride and his best pal.
And with that last snuggle, it was time to head to the venue. This is when it began to rain again! I mean, piss down rain! BMs had to create a cocoon around me and shuttle me to the car. At least I was dry!
[Guest Photo] The barn had a “table side” and a “bar and dancefloor” side. This, obviously, was the table side. Though we didn’t have a dinner, guests sat here for our first dance, cake cutting, and speeches!
The massive dessert table (the centerpiece on that table is missing a vase as it’s being filled)
The barn was HUGE! I still can’t believe how much space there was. It really didn’t feel like we had 130 people there. Wedding party and family arriving for photos!
[Guest Photo] Because of the crap weather, we set up the ceremony inside. We had it on the dance floor side of the barn. Really though, it did feel intimate and romantic… it was almost a blessing in disguise.
The Bar. I wish I was able to spend more time there.
[Guest Photo] A place for us to rest with Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man during speeches.
We had lots of pop, juice and water for our non drinkers. I used old fruit baskets lined with plastic because, well, I didn’t know what else to put that crap in. We also had two Kuerig coffee makers set up, with a selection of tea, coffee, hot chocolate, and apple cider. I made a little note with instructions, though I don’t think anyone needed it. I didn’t want anyone to have to worry about refilling coffee and tea canisters so this took care of that nonsense! Ain’t nobody got time fo that!
Nearly cut off my hand slicing these bad boys.
Guestquilt Table! I have started stitching the messages that were written on each square. Once those are done I will sew the squares together and have it quilted!
Yes, it is Giant Jenga.
I made strawberry French macarons with milk chocolate ganache for favours. There were only about 10 left. I was hoping there would be like 60 left.
Our Thumb Prints
AKA We don’t give a crap where you sit.
I had two giant balloons for Flower Girl and Ring Bearer to carry. Flower Girl ended up carrying the rings and Ring Bearer carried a balloon, but as long as they weren’t ripping each other’s face off, I didn’t care. Ring Bearer didn’t let go of that balloon until he was given a cupcake for each hand.
Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man and Groomsmen Kenny made these. The guys were pretty proud as I think that’s the first time they ever touched a flower.
As I mentioned before, I had some flower problems. This is how it all went down:
– Plan to grow our own flowers and pick lilacs.
– Have to move in the fall and transplant expensive roses and peonies.
– Transplanted flowers don’t make it. Fuck!
– Plant ranunculus and anemone bulbs. Order other flowers wholesale. Pick lilacs.
– Bulbs do not flower in time. Heat wave kills ALL FRIGGING LILACS WITHIN 100KM RADIUS two days before wedding. Wholesale flowers arrive late, and mostly dead (flower company’s error).
– Uh oh. We have like 5 flowers.
– Dog eats one of the flowers.
– Now we have 4 flowers.
– Maid/Matron of Honor and Aunt scour the city to find anything remotely acceptable.
– Put together flowers morning of the wedding.
Obviously I’m still a little bitter. This is one thing I wish I did not DIY. However, they did look pretty, and I am so grateful for what we did have.
They were only on my feet for a few minutes when it finally stopped raining long enough for us to take some photos outside! My dress was disgusting by the time we were finished, but that was nothing an old t-shirt and bottle of water couldn’t fix. Scrub, scrub, scrub!
How cute are Flower Girl and RB? They are my niece and nephew who are only 2 and 4! They were SO well behaved that day!
Got caught taking a cracker break!
I melt into a puddle every time I look at this. Too much sweet for one photo.
My immediate family.
Most of these desserts were made by me, my mom, or my Aunt!
My mom and I made this cotton candy on the very hot and sticky Thursday before the wedding. There was candy flying everywhere!
We had our own version of a ring warming for our guests before they went to their seats. People loved this!
“The Bride and Groom invite you to hold their ring box in your hands and warm their rings with your love. Warm them with blessings you have for their upcoming life together. Warm them for luck. Warm them for health, happiness and all that is beautiful in life. Make a silent wish that will carry them into a bright and lasting marriage.
When they exchange these rings during the ceremony, they will carry not only the promises the Bride and Groom make to each other, but the love and support of each of you.
They will carry them forever.”
Our ring guard and program man! He knew I would be watching to make sure he got rid of all of those pesky programs.
SIL’s Fiance played Wonderwall by Oassis for the processional, Fix You by Coldplay for my entrance, and Home by Phillip Phillips for the recessional.
Notice RB’s balloon in the back? To honour our mother’s we did a “Last Kiss before the First Kiss.” This is what our officiant said:
“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.
So, because of this eternal bond, Andrew and Jess have asked that their last kiss as single people be from the person who gave them their first kiss in life.
With no doubt the same amount of affection that you gave to them on the day they were born, Mother’s please give your children their last kiss, before their first kiss.”
My cousin’s wife, who has a beautiful singing voice, sang Frank Sinatra’s The Way You Look Tonight during the signing of the register.
Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man (who are married, remember?) took a little while to sign because they forgot their postal code! Idiots (kidding).
Yay, we did it! I worked very hard on writing a personalized non-religious ceremony, and it really paid off! We saw lots of tears and got many many compliments.
We did our first dance amongst the guests at their tables. We danced to Let It Be Me by Ray Lamontagne.
I had intended to decorate our cake the morning of the wedding, but due to the snags that we hit earlier in the week, I didn’t have time. Cue Bridesmaid or Best Man Little Sister (she is 12)! She worked really hard for a whole hour decorating this cake, and having never done it before, it turned out not so shabby! No, it wasn’t what I had envisioned for my wedding cake, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
It wasn’t easy, but I squeezed my dress through the back of the food truck! Thankfully the fryers weren’t on. This, without a doubt, was the guest favourite of the wedding.
We snuck away for a some quite time and got caught!
[Personal Photo] They seriously would not stop eating. Poutine, hamburgers, hot dogs, pogos, veggie burgers, chicken tenders etc. were found in everyone’s hands.
[Personal Photo] My cousin put together a slideshow for us to watch after the speeches. It was amazing! He incorporated our two hometowns, favourite music (from childhood and present), favourite TV shows, hilarious photos, and old video clips. It was so touching; I don’t think there was a dry eye in the room. If you are interested in watching it, it can be found here.
When we gathered around to watch it, Bridesmaid or Best Man K was holding Ring Bearer beside me. He leaned over and whispered “Aunt Jess, I just really want to snuggle.” He lasted maybe 3 minutes (I would have gone to sleep too, if I could).
Two hours after arriving home from the wedding, we hoped on a shuttle to the airport to spend a very (much needed) relaxing week in St. Lucia!