(Closed) A proposal warning and reminder

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
3132 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012


Post # 4
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Couldn’t of said it better!

My proposal was what most people would call pathetic… but to me it was perfect. It took place at home right before we were supposed to go see a movie. It was short and sweet and totally unexpected. I think the proposal was super sweet because it was unplanned for him (and I). He had purchased the ring over 6 months prior but  couldn’t come up with something romantic and good enough for me (his words- not mine) I find it super cute because it was like he couldn’t wait any more and just wanted to be engaged.

Post # 5
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

*LOVE THIS***** so true!!

Post # 6
1182 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Excellent post.

Post # 7
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agreed. I see this happening too often. I didn’t even notice what was going on around Fiance and I when he proposed, I was just too excited that he was proposing at all! And if you don’t have that feeling, well… I’d question why.

Post # 8
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love this so much.


When I found out that you can hire “proposal planners” I was floored. Really? Because men needed anymore pressure to make a proposal perfect? It isn’t a show/circus. 

Post # 9
5165 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@SFreeman2187: There really should be a like button on weddingbee! I agree with you 100%

Post # 10
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Omg thank god!! I love this post!! Hardly anything in life is going to go exactly as its planned, and Im so glad that some of you bees realize that. My proposal wasnt super glamorous, but it was perfect for us. I love that most of all he chose me to be his partner in life!! No matter what I was wearing, how my hair looked, or what was going on around us lol It was great just like all proposals. Its unfortunate, because it really is almost everyday I read a post about how theirs isnt good enough,.. and more than anything that is just sad!

Post # 11
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

and here’s the thing… if you make it clear you’re dissapointed, you’ve just dumped about 49859348594 tons of pressure on the guy. If you get super excited and truly love it, the pressure is off, and a few weeks later he might be all “hmm yay…but…I was nervous as hell, I should have said _______________ ” and totally blow you away AGAIN.

I was proposed to in the car, in the parking lot of the hospice where my grandmother was about to die and we were both crying.  He thought she had more time and he could do something “special” over the summer, but…you know how plans go.  So he came to visit that day and it was clear he only had a few days. The ring was back at our house, I was a snotty, sniffling, depressed hot mess, and thats when he asked. I hadn’t eaten all day – so we had our engagement dinner at the frikking Outback, because we drove by it and my stomach was screaming at me to eat a steak, and a blooming onion, and a baked potato, and some broccoli, and a few drinks…  but still, “dissapointed” did not cross my mind.

The next day I went back to the hospice with the ring and showed it to my grandmother. She passed away I think 4 days later. The wake was at least 3 dozen people doing this awkward “Im so sorry…OMGCONGRATSOMG!” thing…    not exactly what every girl dreams of, but still, I was pretty psyched.

Fast forward 2 months, we’re up in Maine watching seals play in the water by this old  lighthouse at sunset, and he takes the ring off my finger and gets down on one knee. Tadaaaah!  So now I get to choose, depending on how close I am with the person who asks, and whether or not I feel like I can bring up my grandmother without getting weepy, which proposal story to tell.  🙂

Most of us are insightful enough to know what pains-in-the-butts we can be, so, perhaps keep that in mind when we decide how to react to someone trying to tell us they want to be with us forever, regardless of how and where it comes out?

Post # 13
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Great post!

Post # 15
1258 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Agreed.  Great post!

Also, when something goes wrong during the proposal, e.g. he forgets to open the box or to ask the question, that will just make a great story to laugh about when you tell the grandkids.  You are creating memories here.  The autentic ones are always better than the scripted ones.

Post # 16
2166 posts
Buzzing bee

+1 to all the positive sentiments for this thread!


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