(Closed) A question for ladies who are waiting

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hi, 

 

I’m waiting because my SO told me he wants to propose to me and that he wants to surprise me with a ring and proposal when i least expect it. I love that he wants to do that, i think its really romantic and i know the time spent waiting will be worth it, but it doesnt make it any easier to wait. 

I have thought about asking him, but i know it’ll ruin his big moment and its really important to him (and me) that he gets to ask. 

Post # 4
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234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

For me, I wouldn’t propose because I want him to, and I want him to want to propose…and also, everyone says it’s supposed to be the man’s moment, his thing, so I don’t want to take that away from him.

Post # 5
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

After SO and I discussed marriage and our life together, we discussed timing, when we’d like to get married, engaged, etc. We’re waiting till after I meet his mother. SO asked me if he could surprise me with a proposal, and I said yes. If that had made me uncomfortable, I would have said no. I’m happy to wait for him to propose. I find the wait very exciting.

I understand why men would like the moment. I would like to walk down the aisle in a white dress. He would like to get down on one knee and surprise me with a ring. Are either of those things necessary for a happy marriage? Absolutely not. Are both of those things moments we would like to have? For sure. I don’t see any reason why he can’t have it.

Post # 6
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370 posts
Helper bee

My SO is very traditional and it wouldn’t be recieved well if I proposed. Plus I’ve always thought it was the man’s job to ask for a lady’s hand its romantic ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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1030 posts
Bumble bee

i think technically i *did* propose when I said “um, you know this place we really like? it gets booked up like 18 months in advance and I know you always said you imagined we’d be married by September 2013….”

we went and looked at it. we loved it. he always said we’d get married then, so we booked it.

he still wants to do the whole down-on-one-knee thing (and I want him to, too) and so we’re not telling our families anything until that’s happened.

Post # 8
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1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wanted to but my so asked me not to. He said he wants to be the one to do it and I respect that .

Post # 10
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Partly because I know it’s coming anyway. We’ve talked about it since about 3 months into dating, so it’s not like I’m worried he won’t ask. In fact I didn’t really consider myself ‘waiting’ until I knew he had the ring. Mostly though we are traditional. He wanted to do it the way that is ‘right’ in his eyes – ask my Dad for his blessing, then plan something romantic for me. Who am I to deny him that wish? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would love to propose to him, in fact I told him if he didn’t mind I would. But for my SO that is a complete no go. He said if I ever proposed to him the answer would most definitely be no because I’d be taking away his right to shine as a guy.

Post # 12
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432 posts
Helper bee

I ask my SO too marry me everyday ๐Ÿ˜€ we know its what we want but he says he wants to propose too me properly he said its a moment he is looking forward to doing bless him <3

Post # 13
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196 posts
Blushing bee

I totally would have proposed to him, but he said absolutely not, it’s something he wants to do himself

Post # 14
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154 posts
Blushing bee

i cant propose beacuse my bf said if i did he would say no ๐Ÿ™ he wants to do the proposing :/

just wish he would do it already !!!

Post # 15
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340 posts
Helper bee

He wants to do the proposing and I get that, but I know what you mean the feminist in me is thinking ‘wtf’ you are ready to get married and you are WAITING on HIM?? It really is irrational. It should be a joint decision where two people decide now is the time and both give rings and then plan a wedding or go to a courthouse etc. It is a really outdated tradition.

Post # 16
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@clumsylawyer:  My SO loves to surprise me but rarely gets to do it. He has been thinking about this since we met and I want him to have the proposal he’s been dreaming of. And to be honest, I really want that amazing romantic moment.

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