(Closed) A question for those that are doing a first look…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It was just the two of us at the first look.  But trust me, walking down the aisle toward his is still special after the first look so your mom isn’t missing out on anything.

Post # 4
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am doing a first look and agree with you, I want it to just be my Fiance and me.  Our bridal party will be in a different area, so it will just be us 3.

I think you could do a little convincing that walking you down the aisle will be just as special, as MissAsB said.  I’d most likely insist that I wanted the first look to be between my Fiance and I if I were in your situation.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I also agree. Everyone always says how the day becomes such a blur and goes so fast.  I think a first look alone together will help make that first moment more intimate and memorable as it’s jut the two of you, and likely the only time you’ll be alone for the rest of the day!   My Fiance are getting married on a private villa and I am meeting him there alone beforehand, followed shortly by our photographer.  We love the location and wanted to make sure we had a few minutes to just be alone together, relax and take in the setting before the excitement begins. Good luck to you! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The only other person that will be there with us for our first look is our photographer. Even then, he’ll be up in a balcony so it won’t feel like he’s just standing all around us invading our space. I’m really excited for that time. I think it’s going to be the only time during the entire wedding that we will get to be alone, just me and him.

I would try talking to your mom and explaining why you want it to be just the two of you. You might also explain that it will stil be really special when she walks you down the aisle. You could even show her these posts from people saying it was still special. It says you fight with your mom over silly things already but if this is something important to you then you should stand your ground. Your mom is going to have to let go at some point and realize that her little girl is getting married.

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with everyone else, we are just having it be us and the photographer. That’s the whole point of why I am chosing to do a first look, so theres no awkward moment of having to act a certain way because other people are watching. you just get to be 100% comfortable because its you and the man you are about to marry 🙂 Just explain to her that she will still get to take part in the biggest part of the day (the ceremony!) and I’m pretty sure your fiance will still have a huge grin on his face seeing you walk down the aisle 🙂

Post # 8
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

We’re doing a first look as well. We’re doing it right before bridal party photos, before the ceremony, so our bridal party will be around, but right there with us. I want it to be just us and our photographer. I think that the first look is a wonderful idea, but I don’t think it takes away from the moment you first see each other as you walk down the aisle.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are going to do a first look and then some bridal party pictures as well. Our first look will be private, just the 2 of us and the photographer. I want to have an intimate moment alone with my Fiance before all the craziness starts and I don’t want my mom right there next to me.

Post # 11
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1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Most of our family was there for ours on both sides, so it was basically like half of the people at the wedding were there.  Alot of people were staying at the house we were getting ready at and apparently it’s tradition on my hubs side to have family there for the first look, so we went along with it and it was fun.  He was at the bottom of a pretty staircase with my bouquet.  My family has mentioned several times they were happy they were there for it.  Since we weren’t going to see each other for the first time in church I think my mom would have felt robbed if she didn’t get to see our reactions.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

My Mother-In-Law threw a fit when Darling Husband told her about the reveal…we “are taking that moment away from” her.  It was us and our photographers but my nephew (4) did walk me to Darling Husband and then ran off…he didn’t want to stay in the getting ready room. 

My grandmother said “Ok lets go watch this!” and I had to tell her that it was only me and Darling Husband.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We are just doing us and both photographers I’m sure will be hiding behind trees like paparazzi or something 🙂  Remind your mom there will be lots of photos to see the expressions on each of your faces, but that the walk down the aisle is still special because you are officially starting the ceremony. 

Post # 14
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’ll be just the two of us, and our photographer. I’m actually really excited for it!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I agree with everyone else. It’s an intimate moment and I just want to share it with Fiance. And a photographer who I’ve never met before. haha

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