(Closed) A question on THANK YOU cards

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I’m still pre-wedding, trying to be on-the-ball with the thank yous as early wedding gifts are coming in.

Stationery is great, but I think the law of diminishing returns has kicked in by this point: you are better off getting cards sent out sooner rather than waiting for the monogrammed stationery.

I think if you find nice cards that are blank inside (whether they say “thank you” on the front or just have a nice picture/design/etc.) and use them to write a personal message, that would be perfectly acceptable.

Post # 4
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s more important you send them out sooner than they be custom cards.  In my opinion.

Post # 5
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@OliveT:  If you always wanted to order personalized notes for your thank-you notes, I would encourage you to do it. I always wanted to do that as well, and I had engraved informals (which, actually, are quite formal, but they’re called informals, lol.)

I think you still have plenty of time to send your notes.  Most people are under the, yes, mistaken impression, that brides and grooms have a year to send thank-you notes.  I used to be one of those people, until I learned otherwise from some more knowledgeable bees. However, the fact that so many people do believe this means that the majority of your guests will not consider your note to be absent or late if it arrives during that timeframe.

I would order the personalized notes and just begin writing them as soon as you can, a few at a time, until you finish them over the next few weeks/months.

Post # 6
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I received a standard thank you card from the last wedding I attended.  Inside was a lovely handwritten note from the bride.  I thought it was great.

Post # 7
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsWBS:  Agreed.

Since it’s already been a month and a half since your wedding, I think time is of the essence here. A simple, generic card with a handwritten sentiment sent in a timely manner would mean far more to your guests than some fancy stationery at this point.

Our Thank You notes were just a simple card that said “Thank You” on the front and blank space on the back to write our notes.

As for how long it takes… I would say that it took me approximately 8-10 hours (a few hours a day for about a week) to write out about 80 thank you notes.

Post # 8
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I collect the cheap stationary from Michael’s when it’s in their dollar bin, so all of my thank-you cards will be different.

In my opinion, I think it’s more important to get them out quickly, than to have it on monogramed stationary; I wouldn’t spend the time or money on them, just use something from the local shop and send them on their way. 

Post # 9
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think you are fine as long as your TYs go out by the three month mark. You have time to order stationary, which is definitely more formal, but boxed cards are fine as well. There really are some lovely ones out there. Or, if you have a Crane & Co. or Papyrus store in your area, you may be able to get semi-personalized stationary on the spot, like something with your last initial on it, and then the quality of the paper will be truly fantastic.

Post # 10
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

although i love pretty stationery, i think it’s more important to send them out promptly.  i know techinically i had 3 months but i wanted to get them done with.  i bought really nice letterpressed generic thank you cards before the wedding as a back up because i wasn’t sure how much time i would have.  i don’t care too much about personalized but i cared about the feel/texture of the cards.  since we are waiting to go on our honeymoon, i knocked them out over memorial day weekend.  i didn’t use the generic cards but ended up making a personalized layered booklet bound using rivets. my photographer sent a preview of about 100 photos a little early so and i ended creating a template in InDesign, printed, assembled, and hand wrote all the cards.  they were mailed about 3 weeks after the wedding.  everyone loved them.

Post # 11
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I did generic thank you cards with hand written messages inside. I think the guests were more impressed by how much we had written/how personalized the message was that they didn’t care that we didn’t have a design matching our invitation suite. I’d say just get ’em done without the fancy stationary (and make your Darling Husband help ;), it does go a lot quicker with two writers!).

Post # 12
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree. Send the cards out sooner rather than later, and don’t worry about what type of stationary it’s on. A card that is blank inside works just fine whether it says thank you or not on the outside. I’ve recieved plenty of thank you cards from the “bridal” section of Michael’s.

Post # 13
1024 posts
Bumble bee

Although it’s great to have personalized cards, I’m going to agree with PPs that the most important thing is the message inside. That being said, though, lots of online companies can get your orders to you quite quickly! Perhaps you can have the best of both worlds?

Post # 14
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My thank you cards are DIY – I got the photos back from the photographer, and with the use of a little Photoshop we made cards with a picture from the wedding. It’s not super professional, but it’s personal and I don’t want to spend a ton of money on paper which people are probably going to trash after reading it! I’m almost done and really need to get them in the mail, but I’m really trying to push my husband to write those to his friends…anyways, that is for a different thread….

Post # 15
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You could probably get personalized cards within 2 weeks, if you order them now. Or you could easily find cards with your initial on them.

I agree with PPs-guests aren’t going to care what the thank you is on- it’s the note inside that counts. If you do 3 cards a day (doable- this can take 15 minutes), that’s a start.

Little tip: Because I have awful handwriting and a habit of messing up personalized cards, I draft thank yous first in Word, then hand write it. Saves me from wasting cards (much fewer errors when I’ve figured out what I’m going to write before I pick up a pen), and I’m able to use some of the sentences over in multiple cards.

Post # 16
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Custom cards are nice but not necessary. Don’t worry about it and just send generic!

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