(Closed) A question? (closed)

posted 5 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
7222 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@vivalavida:  I haven’t seen any negativity until the most recent “white/filipino” post you made. I know you’re young, so maybe that’s part of what’s happening, but the question was slightly offensive and came off a little immature. I’m sorry, I don’t mean to offend you, but you did ask. 

Since Weddingbee is a site for people close to getting married, I think most people are used to only dealing with people who are older. I hope that’s helpful.

Post # 5
Member
6359 posts
Bee Keeper

If I have the situation right, it’s because you’re 16, single, and nowhere near the point of getting married, right? And this is a wedding site.

I haven’t given you any flack, and I hope this post doesn’t seem like flack either, because that’s not what I intend, but here’s how it is from my perspective: I’m double your age and only came to the bee when I knew my Fiance had a ring for me and was about to propose very soon. When I was 16, the very last thing in my mind was weddings. And you know what? I’m so grateful for that. I feel like you might be cheating yourself out of the full enjoyment of your current life, too busy focusing on a future life phase you’re not in yet and really, truly, have no need to worry about at all right now. It would be like me researching retirement homes I might prefer for myself, right now. I really mean this in the kindest way: Try to live life in the now! And try to live your real life, not a fantasy one. You don’t know how many people wish they could be 16 and single again. Make the most of it! You’ll have plenty time to worry about weddings later.

Just my two cents.

Post # 7
Member
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Probably because this is a wedding site, not meant for the entertainment of 16 year olds.

Post # 8
Member
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sunshine_kar:  +1. Yeah, that’s what Facebook is for, hehe;)

Post # 9
Member
6359 posts
Bee Keeper

@vivalavida:  I know it wasn’t toward me… I haven’t mentioned those thoughts to you before, I just kept them to myself… but since you asked about people’s reactions to you on here, I was hoping it would be helpful to you.

Post # 10
Member
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah I agree with PPs. You’re in a completely different place in life than the other women on this website. It’s a wedding website and you’re 16 & nowhere near marriage. 

Post # 13
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2952 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I’m confused as to why a 16 year old would have any interest in this site. I’m old enough to be your mother so it seems strange to me that you want to interact with people a lot older than you. Your views are clearly going to be a lot different to mine so it’s going to be hard for some of us to understand where you are coming from because you are so much younger.

Post # 15
Member
7222 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@vivalavida:  See… your response to @joya_aspera is a good example of why people might be less than enthusiastic about your posts. Women planning their weddings, dealing with serious relationships and trying to start their families will post LONG stories and responses. These are taken seriously, read throughly and responded to thoughtful by a very supportive community. Since you are not in the same place in your life, you responded to her before even bothering to read her entire post. This is totally normal for where you are in your life. It is not, however, normal for posters here. 

 

Post # 16
Member
2952 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@vivalavida:  well stick around here then just be prepared that people aren’t always going to understand you:)

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