A quick rant to start the week!

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Dh forgot to put a bottle that had 3oz left of breastmilk in it in the fridge before going back to bed. Could have murdered him.

Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I have a BRUISE – red and purple- on my hand because he shoves things in the fridge willy nilly and they fall out when you open the door. A jar fell out, landed on my hand before falling on the ground, resulting in me having to 

1 ice my hand

2 clean the jar mess

3 redo the fridge

All as I was trying to make him food. 

Yesterday I went to change the trash bin liners as it was trash day, and on the swinging door trash bin I found pumpkin and dog kibble lodged in the handle. This was his idea of being a great helper, mind you, because he tossed it in the general direction of the trash bin.

idk what to say. I love him. Not trading him in or anything. But all of the rage over the thoughtlessness.

Oh, I brought the swinging arm to him to show him the food lodged in it, per our agreement that I get one cleaning tip a day, and he apologized and promised to clean it out. That was yesterday.

yeah. It’s not cleaned. Trying to remind myself of how he handles my internet issues without complaint… 

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i go to bed earlier than my husband all the time.  we have a 2 year old and 5 month old. many times he tells me he’s going to clean up the kitchen.  but when i come down stairs the next morning, the sink it still full of dishes or stuff is sometimes let out.

i tell him if he wasn’t planning on doing it, i would have just done it.  he says he forgot or didn’t want to make noise, etc. 

it’s not a battle worth fighting, espeically since he does the grocery shopping, cooking, and cleaning of the kitchen.  just his idea of clean isn’t my idea of clean.

 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m so sorry.  My ex was this way (untreated ADD and other various culprits) and it just got to the point where the resentment and frustration and extremely low expectations I had for him on helping with household duties and life duties became a relationship killer. 

It’s not a big deal when it happens once, but when it happens again and again and again, it gets exponentially worse.  I hope that you guys have some good systems that can prevent this kind of thing most of the time!  

Post # 21
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Worker bee

I hear the Bees on the kitty litter thing…

I want to the litter box cleaned out once a week. With scooping in between. This is Dh job… since it’s been advised I try not to touch the stuff while pregnant. I have to remind him *every* Sunday to get that done- since garbage day is Monday… and he usually waits until Monday morning to do it- when I remind him again. Then gets all fussy becasue he’ll be late for work. Best part… is when he leaves it in the garage and I find it 2 days later while putting groceries in the deep freeze. Drives me up the friggin’ wall.

Another one… I was getting annoyed with our XMas lights still up. So- I brought home a ladder from work and did it myself on a day I got home early. He didn’t notice until 3 weeks later that they were down and got mad about me being pregnant on an 8 foot ladder. If he would have taken them down 3 *months* previously when I first asked him to do it- I wouldn’t have taken matters into my own hands… :/

I hate nagging… but holy crap! If I didn’t nothing would get done.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

That sounds really frustrating! I have to admit, I’m like your husband in that I tend to put things off and then often forget to do them. I realized it was frustrating my SO though, so I created a rule for myself: If it takes 5 minutes or less, do it immediately. If it will take longer and I can’t do it immediately, write it on the chalkboard in the kitchen (which I created a habit of checking about 30min before getting ready for bed).

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

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RobbieAndJuliahaha :  
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tiffanybruiser :  this!

Something I point out to my husband is that I don’t really appreciate that HIS work means work for me and MY work also means work for me. Even when he’s great about doing things (and he is great- he builds me furniture all the time and is willing to dive in on a home project just because I get an inspiriation), if he acts like he’s my assistant rather than a full fledged partner, then that means I never get a break. Meanwhile, he’s following me around the house, trying to take over what I’m doing rather than finding something else to do so we can divide and conquer on chores.

Sometimes, men are hella irritating…

 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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TheGridMonster :  

whoever coined the term “crying over spilled milk” was definitely referring to breast milk. That calls for war 😉

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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llevinso :  Rant away…

See if I did something like that by accident and knew my partner was a bit miffed I’d do my best to rectify the situation and not inconvenience  my partner further. I’d make a point to run to the shop, pick up more sqaush and steam some more to make up for my error. I wouldn’t just go whoops. I hope he does try to fix the issue. 😞

 

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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BalletParker :  Oh man my hubby used to do that with fridge all the time. He likes to stick too many things in the side compartments on the door. I don’t know how many time the whole side compartment just fell off when I’ve opened the door because it’s been packed to the brim! I hated having to pick up broken glass bottles and cracked jars of sticky jam. It also hurts when all these things drop on your feet one after another 😬

He finally stopped doing that after the time it happened in the morning to me before work. I was running late and  was pissed off that it happened again and I got sauce all over my unifirm so I hwd to change too!  I left the mess with a note that he could clean it up. We had old vinyl floor tiles at the time (pre reno) so I didn’t care if it stained but I can imagine after 8 hours on a hot Australian summer’s day, that the smell of beer, garlic sauce, pickles, kecap manis and shrimp paste would not have been pleasant! TBH I think seeing all the wasted beer is what got him to stop packing everything willy nilly 😂

 

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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llevinso :  I hope so too! 😁

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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llevinso :  if you makes you feel better my dh is the same way. I ask him to do something and he says can I do it in a little bit but then forgets and I end up doing it. Drives me up a wall!

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