(Closed) A rant about living in a cruel world with a serious disease- long

• BlushingHoneybee
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: May 2017

mrsdoodlebop:  you are gorgeous! 

• Bridey77
• 4 years ago

Whitetoes:  I have no idea what you are going through, and won’t pretend I know what it’s like. I’m going to assume that the reason you dropped out of graduate school is because you are going bald, and not because of other symptoms of your illness that may be there. Please don’t give up your dreams of a career because of your hair. I work in health care. Your coworkers won’t bat an eye at alopecia. Your patients will find you more relatable because you have a condition of your own. Neither actually have to know with the use of wigs. If you don’t want to go that route, most employers will allow hats and head coverings.

If you haven’t sought out professional support for this, please do. You can find a way to live with this. As for your Mom, she might be surprised to know I did NOT wear an up do on my wedding day. I am still just as married.

• doubtingdebbieah
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: December 2013

I suggest you check out http://www.wigsupport.com It’s a community of super friendly and supportive women going through hair loss. You would be so surprised at how many gorgeous wig/topper options there are! Lots of celebrities wear wigs as well. Try not to let hair get in the way of you achieving your success, you deserve to push through and get your dreams. Honestly, wigs are so beauitulf now adays. Good luck

• doberman
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

I’m going to guess you have alopecia. I’m sorry, it must seem like a cruel joke at times and people’s insensitivity only makes it worse. 

Do you know who Princess Caroline of Monaco is? She is Grace Kelly’s daughter and she was one of the most beautiful women in the world. Well, she had alopecia and had the world staring at her taking pictures. But she persevered and so must you.

You will have a wonderful wedding day, hair or no hair. You will be beautiful, hair or no hair. Your Fiance loves you, hair or no hair.

mrsdoodlebop:  Fabulous! Thank you for sharing.

• avarose
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

Sending you a big hug! You are beautiful, you are deserving, and you have so much courage. 

• beethree
• 4 years ago

Hugs!! I am sorry you have to deal with this, life isn’t fair. But, please don’t let this stop you from pursuing occupational therapy–you can understand the challenges some people face more than others and would likely be even more effective. Or from enjoying your wedding–whether you rock a bald head, a beautiful scarf, or a wig you should celebrate what you do have–the love of your life beside you, commiting to be with you, just as you are.

• Cheekie0077
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2016

mrsdoodlebop:  you’re beautiful, bald and with hair .. Your confidence really shines through in those pics! 😄👍

• OldestTree
• 4 years ago

 Whitetoes:  I am so sorry! I relate to so much of what you have said, because I started losing my thick long hair when I was 18. It’s been almost ten years now, and every single day is pretty much hell.  No one gets that, thinking it’s an overreaction.

Trying to cover it up has pretty much become ‘my life’…I have to get up very early every morning, usually around 5am or 5:30am, just to have a chance of arriving at work on time at 9am. Yes, it takes that LONG to hide it, and to be honest, I still look like a freak.

All I’ve ever wanted as to be able to put my hair back in a normal ponytail in 5mins like all the other girls; to go on holiday and not be restricted in activites because I have to keep my hair perfectly in place.

It sucks really bad.

Sorry.