(Closed) a rant…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t see what the big deal is, especially if it ends up that they’re all in the same dress.  As long as they’re handling the returns and any costs involved, I would just let them switch their dresses.

While yes, it’s your wedding and you should have a say in what they wear, I also think it’s important to let your girls be comfortable and wear something they like.  If allowing them to wear this other dress makes them feel better and they don’t have to get the dress altered, why not let them?

Post # 4
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t argue with them about it.  Inside I’d probably be annoyed, but I would definitely let it go.  I’m the type of person who likes to avoid conflict, though.  If buying the other dress is going to make them happy, why not?  The last thing you want are cranky or unhappy bridesmaids.

Post # 5
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My bridesmaids annoyed me a bit through the process, but I let it go. One bridesmaid hemmed her dress way to short and another’s was extremely tight. It’s not what I wanted, but in the end the big picture looked fine and my BMs were the ones who had to deal with people asking them why they did that to their dress. There are just way to many details associated with a wedding that these minor things honestly don’t matter as much in the end. My bridesmaids all had different looking dresses in the same color and it worked out wonderfully so don’t worry.

I know it’s easy for me to say this now that I am done my wedding and the planning process, but I really wished someone would have told me to stress way less over the details because it goes by in a flash and it’s the emotional stuff and the memories that count. My mom pointed out to me that no one can hardly even remember what her bridesmaids wore, but everyone remembered the wonderful speeches and the pretty church. Focus on the bigger picture and it will all work out wonderfully 🙂

Post # 7
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I may be in the minority here but if I was asked to be a bridesmaid I would hope that I could just wear the dress off the rack and not have to pay additional for alterations. If the dress is too big on her it wont look great in the pics, I would rather she had a dress that fit right.

Post # 9
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Let them wear the dress they want and keep the Maid/Matron of Honor in the different dress. She is the Maid/Matron of Honor, she can wear a special dress from the same designer. In fact I think it would be a nice way to sort of let her shine.

If you don’t want to do this, be prepared for them to be unhappy, but try then and explain to them that you really want the look of miss-matched dresses and you would really appreciate if they could get the dresses they have altered. 

Post # 10
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939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Rubies: she said the girl in the different dress is NOT the Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 11
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Lee_Ann: I apologize I shall read more closely next time.

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