(Closed) A rant…just because, they really need an area for this

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I feel the same way!  I’m 33 (met my fiance when I was 30) and everyone now has babies.  I’m so excited for them, just as I was there for them when they got married, but I feel like I’m late to the party now.  Oh well–I am just trying to focus on the fact that one of my dreams is coming true and that I found the love of my life and let go of some of the expectations regarding certain friend activities.  They have all been happy for me, but I think it would’ve felt like a bigger deal had I gotten married when I was in my 20’s. 

Post # 5
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The same thing is happening to me and I’m only the second in our group of friends to get married! The first friend to get married is now pregnant, so all the group attention is on the pregnancy. It’s like since she’s done the wedding-thing it’s all old-hat and only her pregnancy is what matters. When we all got together after my engagement, no one even asked to see my e-ring.

I don’t resent her because it is really awesome that she’s pregnant, I just wish that some of the attention would be on me too. Just a little.

Post # 6
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322 posts
Helper bee

OMG that is totally me! Only I’m not even engaged yet so it’s more a fear that it is going to be like that. By the time it’s my turn, I feel like half my close friends will be pregnant or have kids and people won’t think anything is exciting anymore because they’ve already been through it a million times.

Post # 7
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Awww, it is tough when you and your friends are at different stages in your lives. I’m one of the first in my circle to get married and it’s weird too sometimes in different ways. Some of my friends are still really big into clubbing and partying and aren’t looking to settle down anytime soon, so they’re not really excited about the wedding. I’m also not too keen on talking about it with some of my other friends who are in LTRs because I don’t want them to feel bad because they’re not engaged. It kinda sucks not gushing with my girlfriends all the time, but that’s life I guess; no one’s as excited about our weddings as we are.

Post # 8
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

People suck. Grrrrrrrr. I’m in a pissy mood too, same reason.

Post # 10
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m not in the exact same situation, but I had always thought that my best friend from college would be my Maid/Matron of Honor.  She just had her second baby and isn’t sure if she can even make it to my wedding, as it would involve overseas travel. 🙁

Post # 11
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5784 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

This is actually happening to my Fiance, he’s the last one from his group of friends to get married and no one wants to travel for his bachelor party (he has gone to Miami, Toronto, New Orleans etc… for these guys). Thankfully his best man told them all off so I think some of them will end up going.

Post # 12
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hear ya! Our of my group of 3 best friends, I am the 3rd to get married (I’ve also been with Fiance the longest, but thats a rant for another day). When I told them we were engaged they were all very happy for me since they were just as anxious for me to get the ring as I was. We normally get together for lunch once a month to catch up (we’re all very busy). I was looking forward to the lunch after we got engaged because I imagined it would be all talk of our wedding (selfish, I know but I waited 5 years god dammit!). Well, there was about 30 seconds of wedding talk and 3 hours of pregnancy talk (2 of my best friends were preggo at the time). It wasnt even like tolerable pregnancy talk, they were talking about nipple chaffing and fluid leakage (um, SOOO not lunch conversation!). So yea, I’m in the same boat. I’ve just learned to get over it and deal with the pregnancy talk even though it is the last thing I want to discuss.

Post # 13
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I totally feel you! My one group of friends was absolutely like that! They gushed about their weddings and when it was time to buy their houses, and when it was my turn, all they could talk about was their babies. It was really frustrating b/c I felt like I was always listening to their good news stories, and when I finally had some of my own, they weren’t listening.

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