- 5 years ago
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have a small group of friends (there’s about 6 of us total.) And one guy, is a total a$$hole. Let’s call him: Randy. I’ve been friends with Randy for 6 years. The Boyfriend or Best Friend has known Randy for 10 years. He prides himself on “being a jerk.” Yeah.
-Randy makes jokes about “being gay” with my BF; sometimes they’re funny, and sometimes they’re down right creepy and uncomfortable. My Boyfriend or Best Friend thinks they’re uncomfortable too.
-About him being an a$$hole: one night we were watching movies at his place, and Randy was ok with the Boyfriend or Best Friend sitting on his bed with him, but not me. I had to sit on the floor. The Boyfriend or Best Friend thought this was rude of Randy, so he sat on the floor next to me.
-He always buys things for my Boyfriend or Best Friend. Every birthday, every Christmas, my Boyfriend or Best Friend is the only one who gets a gift from Randy. Randy doesn’t even buy gifts for any of our other friends. Awkward?
-One night, ON MY BIRTHDAY, Randy didn’t want to go to the restaurant I picked, because he didn’t like the food. (Let it be known, our picky-eater friend came, and he had a GREAT time). So instead of coming just to hang out/celebrate/show support, he showed up around 11pm at our apartment. Randy walks in, handed my Boyfriend or Best Friend some snacks that HE BOUGHT FOR HIM at 7-11, sat down on the couch and said “I’m exhausted. What are we doing?” Wow. Thanks. Happy birthday to me?
-Whenever we try and decide on what movie to watch, Randy REFUSES to watch any movie he didn’t pick. On Thanksgiving, we were watching funny horror movies (y’know those ones that are REALLY bad and corny?) and everyone was having a good time and laughing, and Randy was on his phone the whole time, and fell asleep.
Another time we were at Redbox trying to pick out a movie, and he started to get bitchy when we were about to pick Movie A. (It was a random comedy, nothing serious or weird.) So, respecting him, we switched to Movie B, and AGAIN, he started getting bitchy. “I’ll probably just fall asleep anyway. I’m tired.” he whined. So we gave in, and chose his movie. And oh, surprise surprise, he was wide awake and laughing the whole time.
-Whenever we’re in his car, he wont play any music except his own. This was funny the first couple of times, but now we just plain hate it. Like, ANGRY-hate it. He wont let us put on any other music. If we do, yup, you guessed it, he gets bitchy and quiet.
…I f*cking hate this guy. But our group is small and connected. If we excluded Randy, it would definitely hurt the rest of group.
I actually dread things like my birthday (it’s coming up in a few weeks.) I’m having A LOT of anxiety about it.
If we don’t do something he wants to do, he’ll either be bitchy the whole time, or he wont show up. It hurts my feelings because I put A LOT of thought into things for all of my friends. Like homemade birthday cakes, surprise birthday parties, unique Christmas presents, etc… and I’m not getting it in return from Randy.
I’m wondering if he’s jealous of the relationship that Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have. And the fact that Randy has been single for the past 10 years (his choice though). I dunno.