(Closed) A reception without dancing- anybody had/been to one?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We only had a first dance at our wedding. We had music playing in the background while people ate and talked. It was a small, low key wedding.

Post # 18
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Newbee

Yeah I have been to one, but for me, as a guest…it was kind of boring. But! You know what, its your day…haha not ours. So! Here are some ideas:

 

Get a photo booth

Have performances

Open bar? not sure if anyone mentioned this

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i’ve only been to one wedding without dancing (there was no alcohol either) and honestly it was really boring. i didn’t really know anyone there though and i was already irritated because they took pictures for like 3 hours while we all waited to eat. even though my Fiance was an usher, we left as soon as possible because we were bored out of our mi

i’m not a dancer at all, and my Fiance definitely isn’t either, but we see still having a DJ for everyone else since we are having an evening reception.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I somehow don’t see much dancing going on at my wedding. We aren’t really having a band, just a piano player and then music on from the speakers. Hmm.

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have, and honestly, it was boring. Everyone just basically sat at their table and chatted. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

I’ve been to one that happened to be DH’s cousins and it was honestly the weirdest thing for me.  Apparently, it was normal for everyone else because the majority of the family and friends weren’t dancers either.  We left not long after supper and went to a bar.

I would think about your guests with this one.  Are the majority of them dancers?  If not, I would still forgo it, but if they are I would think about the decision again.  I would honestly expect the reception to not last very long.

And to answer your question, after dinner was finished we were able to move around and mingle but us youngens wanted to a little more then just chat with family…

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

My BFF had a great one in Charleston. The ceremony was at 11, food came out at 11:30 (it was a brunch menu), we were out by 3. Open bar and location – she had it eight by the water – is the key. She also had a string quartet playing and trolley rides there and back for guest so we can all over indulge. We were back in time to take naps and go out later.

I am having a no dancing reception as well but my wedding is a 40 guest family only wedding at FI’s parents house so it is more of a family reunion than a wedding. We are hoping to be out of there fairly quickly. The family wanted the wedding so what they do to entertain themselves is uo to them.

ETA: I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man at another one – I like to block this one from memory – there was no dancing and no drinking, over 200 guests,  and I had to stay until the end due to pictures.  It was excessively boring because the couple didn’t really seem to care at all if their guests had fun. 

I think your cocktail party idea is great. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are having no dancing and no alcohol at our reception, but we are having an early evening wedding and just light refreshments, punch, coffee and cake afterwards. The real party is the day-after pig roast. There will be music and people can dance if they want to then.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@TeamAwesome:  Neither of my sisters did for their weddings, and they were both really nice. Dance floors in my experience usually end up kind of awkward.

You end up the group of young people trying to dance, but not wanting to dance in a way that’s too risque because of the older folks. Just an uncomfortable atmosphere all around. If I could not have one for my wedding I wouldn’t, but my SO wants one for some reason.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve been to ONE wedding that didn’t have dancing. I enjoyed it greatly, mainly because the food was AMAZING. The groom is a local chef, so everything was delectable. But, to be honest, it would’ve been a little boring and tedious if there hadn’t been so much food and drink.

So, my advice is, splurge on the food.

Mmm. Now I’m hungry.

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I went to a wedding with no dancing once. No alcohol either. It sucked. 

The venue was BEAUTIFUL. Out in the country in the middle of the woods. But, the food was mediocre at best and it was my fiances friends so I didn’t know anyone. Usually, in a situation like this, I have a glass of wine and I am feeling up to chatting it up with anyone who is willing! But, because they were not offering any kind of alcohol, I got to sit and drink my disgustingly sweet punch all night while my fiance talked to all his friends. 

They did have music playing on an iPod, but it was all slow, love songs. Definitely not dance music. 

And because it was a winter wedding, and out in the country, their entertainment for the evening was…….sleigh rides. Yup, sleigh rides in the -25 C Canadian weather. I also, didn’t know about this and wore a short dress. So needless to say, no sleigh ride for me (not to mention I’m allergic to horses)

They also offering cookies and hot chocolate to warm up after your sleigh ride! Woo! 

Honestly, I felt like I was at a wedding for 8 year olds. 

So, while it seems like some people have been able to pull of great weddings that do not involve dancing, I just want to warn you that not all of them turn out as well. (From a guests perspective anyway)

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Depends on the time of day and the crowd.  My regular wedding crowd is not much for dancing but the late nighters and bridal party definitely are into dancing.  I figure it will be more like a house party, especially since there is a noise ordinance at 10pm so we have to bring the party inside and calm it down a bit.

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have been to a few cousin’s weddings that were very basic receptions.  Food, non alcoholic drinks, mingling, and that’s it.  There might have been some background music playing but there was no dancing.  It wasn’t a long reception, just a couple of hours.  I say if that’s what you’re comfortable with, go with it.  The receptions I went to were mid-day to afternoon.

I should add that these cousins were very young.  They were both under 18 at the time and got married because of pregnancy.  Not sure if this matters but explains the no alcohol.

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