(Closed) a report on real life responses to registry cards in invitations

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 257
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I just read all SEVEN PAGES of this thread. Holy Moly Batman! 

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@dynamic_duo: Thanks for sharing your experience. I am doing a middle of the road thing. (just including the URL to our wedding website) which will contain registry info, directions, etc . . . People have already been asking us where we are registered, so I wanted all the information in a centralized location, and I didn’t want to spend a boatload on invites, so we didn’t include a registry card. In my circle of friends and family, no one finds it rude to include one, we just cut it out for budget reasons.

For the thank you note thing, I say go ahead and send a hand written thank you note now. It will mean a lot to the guest that you responded so promptly and personally, and one less thing you have to worry about after the wedding!

 

Post # 258
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Lisa, this 7 page thread started by someone giving their real life story.  it then turned into a thread jack by you which i can’t help but not be surprised by.  and as so many people have stated on many of these “etiquette” threads, good etiquette means treating your guest well, giving them comfort and appreciating them however you can.. for me that means putting registry cards in their invites, giving them an option to purchase alcohol if they wish to, and asking them to rsvp so that a seat may be reserved in their honor.  it also means providing a kick ass party for them to enjoy, dinner and canoli cake included.  for you, it means something different.  only you know your guests and only you can say what makes your guests comfortable and appreciated.  each one of us will have different ways of being “mannerly” within our circles.  so whether emily post rolls over in her grave or not, we are not wrong for the way we handle the situation, even if you think so.  we are just of a different opinion than you.  It’s just WeddingBee, for real.  There is no need to get soooo bent out of shape.

Post # 259
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

While I would never do it, I know people who have and can honestly say that IRL, it’s not a huge deal. We didn’t include them but got a ton of “Where are you registered?” questions. It comes down to what your guests are like, I think.

Post # 260
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@angela2011bride:  I’m not at all bent out of shape and I didn’t threadjack this thread – the people getting upset by hearing another opinion did.  You’ll note that the seven pages are not only my posts. 

Post # 261
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Still????  Can’t believe this thread is still going….

Post # 262
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@dolce bella:

I actually like my oatmeal cookies crunchy. but we can agree to disagree 😉

Post # 263
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

flyingpig – what do you mean you like crunchy cookies? how distasteful! 😉

Post # 264
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@flyinpig3:

well.i.never! Wink

i should start a cookie recipe exchange thread, yes? does such one exist? am i not as original as i dare think i am?

Post # 265
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@dolce bella: hahaha yummm i might have to hit up the starbucks downstairs. dont tell emily post- i heard she hates oatmeal cookies

Post # 266
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I live in the big MI and the last wedding invitations I recieved had no registry information.  Its not usually included in this area.  But they are in bridal shower invitations.  It would seem out of place to me but I would not be offended if they came in the wedding invitations.

Post # 267
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Helper bee

Lisa. The horse is dead. Stop beating it. You’re embarassing yourself.

Post # 268
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

lol

Post # 269
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Post # 271
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My mother and I have been debating the registry card issue since the idea of a wedding was floated. I am vehemently against, she considers it horribly rude to not include them. But then again I think this reflects our personalities, she’s more “Everyone else is doing it, it’s how it’s done” and I am much more protocol centered (in all things, not just correspondence). It’s been a fun 24 years. 🙂

Bottom line, you can’t please everyone, a hostess must do what is best for HER guests. 

 

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