(Closed) a report on real life responses to registry cards in invitations

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 273
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@dynamic_duo:  I really, 100%, completely, and totally don’t think you should feel like you’ve committed an etiquette faux-pas.  It may not be “the best for everyone”, but you’re planning a wedding.  People are going to find something to complain about (lets face it, just by looking through this thread, I’ve come to the conclusion that people LOVE to complain), especially when wedding’s are involved.

Speaking for myself, I know that I personally appreciate when I’m told in the invite where the couple is registered (whether there is a URL to their website or an insert of paper), especially when I’m not invited to their shower.  I love shopping for other people, and a wedding is the perfect excuse, however I don’t want to get them something they’ll hate and have to return.

Let it go.  After all of this, if people actually have to audacity to voice their distaste for getting invited to a night out, meal and entertainment paid for, because you told them where you were registered…then save your breath and punch them in the face (I know I’d want to!).  πŸ˜‰

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Post # 274
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@dynamic_duo: Don’t let the haters stop you from doin your thang!

Mean Girls, anyone? πŸ™‚  But seriously, hasn’t this thread died yet?  Woof.

Post # 276
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

can you edit the registry link from your website? and I HIGHLY doubt anyone will put that much thought into it. Don’t worry about it sweetie

Post # 277
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@dynamic_duo:  You’re just prepared.  I wouldn’t see it as “drawing attention to the idea of getting gifts” like you stated a couple minutes ago.  Really, I wouldn’t have even noticed.  I’m sure that your wedding website has more than just registry info on it, so it wouldn’t look that way to anyone else.  It might also be a great reference point for people that accidentally lose the registry insert (like I did last month for a wedding I attended.  Luckily they put it on their website like you did!).

Deep breath!  Don’t worry about it too much.  πŸ™‚

Post # 278
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

holy out-of-control thread!

@purpleunicorn: please stop worrying about this! have a glass of wine, paint your toenails, and continue to dream about how awesome your wedding is going to be! i have never encountered a registry card before period – in an invitation or otherwise… sort of. there was one time when my co-worker was having a baby and she gave me one because i asked so i could get my other co-workers together to go in on a gift for her. but most of my circle of friends are hip to the interwebs so they had websites w/registry info, among other things. however, i recently went to a wedding where i was not invited to the bridal shower and the couple did not have a website, didn’t send a save-the-date, and didn’t send registry cards with the invitation. and let me tell you i realllly would have appreciated it if they had sent one, despite the fact that FH was the best man. otherwise i would have been surfing various websites for days trying to sort it out. the reality is this: whether you’re getting married, having a baby or moving house, it’s a big deal and an important life event and people want to buy you gifts (babies are my personal favorite to shop for!). don’t feel bad about it. you’re more informed now that you’ve received a broad range of opinions and you can pass on this wisdom to the next bride you know πŸ™‚

Post # 279
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Miss Tattoo: rofl @ that ….didnt this thing pick up again…and it was about cookies?

I prefer chocolate chip. Im an old fashioned gal. πŸ˜›

Post # 280
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@aspasia475: I quite like the idea of the permanent registry. It’s rather quaint. Thanks for the info. It’s kinda cool that I learned a bit of history on WB today.

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