Post # 272
i am now at the point of regretting ever telling my story. i just re-read my original post and remembered how i felt better about the whole thing when i wrote that…since reading the past 200+ comments over the past week, it has just brought me back to TOTALLY regretting the registry cards more than ever before. i appreciate everyone who has said it was fine to include them, but i don’t know. i am in partial agreement with the fact that i should not have included them…especially since i have a website with a link to my registry!
but what can i do now?? 🙁
call up every guest individually and apologize?
i did that with a few of my close friends and even though they said it was no biggie (for them i know it was no biggie because they are my close friends and they KNOW me), i am now still worried about all the other guests, like FI’s friends, or some of my less close friends that i don’t talk to all the time. are they going to think i just invited them to get their gifts?? Also, by bringing it up with the friends that i did, i felt like it was drawing attention to the idea of getting gifts, so that is why i hesitant to bring up with the others!
now i just need to go back to forgetting i did it and talk to people who will make me feel better about it 🙁
Post # 273
I really, 100%, completely, and totally don’t think you should feel like you’ve committed an etiquette faux-pas. It may not be “the best for everyone”, but you’re planning a wedding. People are going to find something to complain about (lets face it, just by looking through this thread, I’ve come to the conclusion that people LOVE to complain), especially when wedding’s are involved.
Speaking for myself, I know that I personally appreciate when I’m told in the invite where the couple is registered (whether there is a URL to their website or an insert of paper), especially when I’m not invited to their shower. I love shopping for other people, and a wedding is the perfect excuse, however I don’t want to get them something they’ll hate and have to return.
Let it go. After all of this, if people actually have to audacity to voice their distaste for getting invited to a night out, meal and entertainment paid for, because you told them where you were registered…then save your breath and punch them in the face (I know I’d want to!). 😉
Post # 274
Don’t let the haters stop you from doin your thang!
Mean Girls, anyone? 🙂 But seriously, hasn’t this thread died yet? Woof.
Post # 275
thanks. i appreciate that. however, i think what bothers me the most though is that i have both! a link to my website (because i asked people to RSVP on the website)….and my website has a link to my registry (among a ton of other info on my destination wedding)! AND i put the registry cards! i just totally wasn’t thinking about my website when i prepared my invitations and when i prepared my invitations, i was only thinking about previous invites that i have gotten with registry cards. but now i see it as overkill. anyway, i will have to get over it at some point.
Post # 276
can you edit the registry link from your website? and I HIGHLY doubt anyone will put that much thought into it. Don’t worry about it sweetie
Post # 277
You’re just prepared. I wouldn’t see it as “drawing attention to the idea of getting gifts” like you stated a couple minutes ago. Really, I wouldn’t have even noticed. I’m sure that your wedding website has more than just registry info on it, so it wouldn’t look that way to anyone else. It might also be a great reference point for people that accidentally lose the registry insert (like I did last month for a wedding I attended. Luckily they put it on their website like you did!).
Deep breath! Don’t worry about it too much. 🙂
Post # 278
holy out-of-control thread!
@purpleunicorn: please stop worrying about this! have a glass of wine, paint your toenails, and continue to dream about how awesome your wedding is going to be! i have never encountered a registry card before period – in an invitation or otherwise… sort of. there was one time when my co-worker was having a baby and she gave me one because i asked so i could get my other co-workers together to go in on a gift for her. but most of my circle of friends are hip to the interwebs so they had websites w/registry info, among other things. however, i recently went to a wedding where i was not invited to the bridal shower and the couple did not have a website, didn’t send a save-the-date, and didn’t send registry cards with the invitation. and let me tell you i realllly would have appreciated it if they had sent one, despite the fact that FH was the best man. otherwise i would have been surfing various websites for days trying to sort it out. the reality is this: whether you’re getting married, having a baby or moving house, it’s a big deal and an important life event and people want to buy you gifts (babies are my personal favorite to shop for!). don’t feel bad about it. you’re more informed now that you’ve received a broad range of opinions and you can pass on this wisdom to the next bride you know 🙂
Post # 279
rofl @ that ….didnt this thing pick up again…and it was about cookies?
I prefer chocolate chip. Im an old fashioned gal. 😛
Post # 280
I quite like the idea of the permanent registry. It’s rather quaint. Thanks for the info. It’s kinda cool that I learned a bit of history on WB today.