Post # 1
So I have an engagement ring from my ex (Ex did not want it). We broke up over 8 years ago. I have been with my current bf for 7 years. We were talking about getting engaged and I want to know what do you girls think of me giving my current bf my exes engagement ring so he can reuse the diamond on a new setting on my new engagement ring?
The ring is a solitaire. Huge beautiful diamond. I had it appraised and the jeweler told me it would be a shame for me to try to sell it, he thinks I should reuse it in a new setting because i would not get even half the value for it if I were to sell it.
Post # 3
Good idea! But do you think everytime you look at it, you will think of your Ex?
Post # 4
I definitely understand your wanting to reuse the diamond because you wouldn’t be able to sell for anywhere near what it’s worth BUT I would hate for you to think of the EX every time you look at the ring. BUT if Fiance is ok with it and so are you then go for it
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I would use it. It’s just a stone and the new ring will be from your current Boyfriend or Best Friend, why spend the money?
Post # 6
BUT, (And I know I am one of te crazy people who thinks of things like this) is there ANY way that EX Fiance would be able to find out that you used the ring stone? I just think he would get some sort of satisfaction from that…LOL
Post # 7
Yikes tough situation! Honestly, I couldn’t reuse it, I want my ring to be 100% about my SO & I, no remnants of any ex or anything.
Post # 8
I’m amazed you kept the rng for 7 years! I told my “engagement” ring from an ex the month I met Fiance, 8 months after we broke up!
I would sell it on a site like exboyfriendjewelery.com or something. So you get top dollar, but you don’t have to deal with the connotations of a diamond from an ex!
Post # 9
Reuse the old stone in a new setting
Post # 10
@Jamie1981: it sounds like the jeweler was trying to save you money. If you don’t have qualms about reusing it I’d say go for it! You can save a lot of money and potentially a lot of time! You can give it to your bf and he can pick a setting he would like to give you or you can both pick one out together!
Post # 11
I wouldnt be able to do it
Post # 12
Honestly when I look at the ring, I think of how beautiful the diamond is, not about my ex relationship. I’d give the ring to my bf, and tell him to design my new ring with that diamond…so in the end it would be my current bfs ring (new band and everything, just the old diamond haha). Originally I was holding on to it, because I was thinking I’d get a value for it and use for a downpayment on a house, but I think it would be a shame to sell it and not get what the ring is worth.
Post # 13
Reuse the stone in a pendant or something else, but not in your engagement ring.
If i was a guy and my Fiance gave me his ex’s diamond to have the stone in another ring i would be kind of offended, tbh.
Post # 14
I think that as long as you’re both ok with it then there is nothing wrong with resetting the stone. Have you spoken to your Fiance to see how he feels about it? Alternatively you could trade the diamond in for a different diamond of similar or greater value you that you and Fiance could pick out together.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
I’m a little perplexed as to why you wouldn’t be able to get more than half of the value. Diamonds, gold, and silver have all increased in value. Is it just because of the stigma of a “used” ring?
Post # 16
I say talk with your future fiance, and see what he thinks. I could/would do it if it were okay with my SO. That being said, if it is not okay with him, then no go!