(Closed) a ring from the ex-dillema!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Good idea! But do you think everytime you look at it, you will think of your Ex?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I definitely understand your wanting to reuse the diamond because you wouldn’t be able to sell for anywhere near what it’s worth BUT I would hate for you to think of the EX every time you look at the ring. BUT if Fiance is ok with it and so are you then go for it

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I would use it. It’s just a stone and the new ring will be from your current Boyfriend or Best Friend, why spend the money?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

BUT, (And I know I am one of te crazy people who thinks of things like this) is there ANY way that EX Fiance would be able to find out that you used the ring stone? I just think he would get some sort of satisfaction from that…LOL

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Yikes tough situation! Honestly, I couldn’t reuse it, I want my ring to be 100% about my SO & I, no remnants of any ex or anything.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m amazed you kept the rng for 7 years! I told my “engagement” ring from an ex the month I met Fiance, 8 months after we broke up!

I would sell it on a site like exboyfriendjewelery.com or something. So you get top dollar, but you don’t have to deal with the connotations of a diamond from an ex!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Reuse the old stone in a new setting

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Jamie1981:  it sounds like the jeweler was trying to save you money. If you don’t have qualms about reusing it I’d say go for it! You can save a lot of money and potentially a lot of time! You can give it to your bf and he can pick a setting he would like to give you or you can both pick one out together!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wouldnt be able to do it

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Reuse the stone in a pendant or something else, but not in your engagement ring.

If i was a guy and my Fiance gave me his ex’s diamond to have the stone in another ring i would be kind of offended, tbh.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I think that as long as you’re both ok with it then there is nothing wrong with resetting the stone.  Have you spoken to your Fiance to see how he feels about it? Alternatively you could trade the diamond in for a different diamond of similar or greater value you that you and Fiance could pick out together.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

I’m a little perplexed as to why you wouldn’t be able to get more than half of the value. Diamonds, gold, and silver have all increased in value. Is it just because of the stigma of a “used” ring?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say talk with your future fiance, and see what he thinks.  I could/would do it if it were okay with my SO.  That being said, if it is not okay with him, then no go!

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