(Closed) A rock and a hard place – SIL's bachelorette party or high school friend's weddi

posted 2 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What event should I choose?

    Bachelorette party for SIL

    Wedding for friend

  • Post # 18
    5269 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I think most people would understand that you have already been invited to a wedding. Even with a weird family situation I would be surprised if anythought it was mean. When the person planning told you the proposed date did you clarify that you can’t do it or does everyone think you are attending the bachelorette?

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    Post # 19
    2975 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I am super, duper curious what these “family opinions” are…

    I understand not wanting to air everything, but the answer here is SO obvious to everyone reading the question that the entire issues is lost without those details. Based off the information provided, no one in their right mind would so much as consider skipping the wedding for the bachelorette. So if there are relevant factors that complicate that choice, we can only give advice on it if you share them.

    Post # 22
    15395 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Not even a question in my mind, the wedding.  Unless you were close to the bachelorette bride, and not close to the wedding bride, I wouldn’t even consider it any other way.  But it sounds like you’re not even close to bachelorette bride.  Being the wife of  husbands brother is a bit removed imo too.. it’ snot like it’s husbands sister.

    Post # 23
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Definitely the wedding. I would have already declined the bachelorette via text. ‘Thanks for thinking of me! Unfortunately, I have a wedding that weekend. I’m looking forward to celebrating SIL at her bridal shower/wedding/etc.” 

    Post # 24
    5761 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Wedding for sure. And the fact your SIL has you scared to say no tells me distancing yourself from her may be needed in the future yikes! 

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