(Closed) A Rough Waiting Week – vent

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Did you discuss any sort of timeline? I find that having that helps me to keep my mouth shut. IF it’s still within the agreed upon timeframe, I can’t complain. If it’s after, oh then it’s hitting the fan hha

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Someday_a_Wifey:  That’s smart (not putting money down yet). If it gets to a certain point where venues are filling up and vendors, etc, you might have to have a talk, not so much “when am i getting this ring” but that you feel uncomfy putting money down before it’s official, and if he’s planning on waiting, then you might need to pick a new date. Just see what he says. If he brushes it off, then it’ll probably be soon and he doesn’t want to blow his cover! If it were me (well, if it were me I would have demanded more than a year to plan ahah) but based on what you told him, I would “give him” until March 1 before I would be like… hey…. weddings don’t plan themselves you know! haha

Post # 6
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812 posts
Busy bee

@Someday_a_Wifey:  Maybe he didn’t do it at Christmas, New Year or our anniversary becuase you’d be expecting it and he wants it to be a surprise. I know it must be hard to wait but at least you know it’s coming and that he has the ring. Think you sound like you need along hot bath and a massage to relax 🙂 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Been there done that, trust me the wait is all worth it, just give him some more time as I guarentee if he has the ring he will be wanting the timing to be perfect (took about 5 months for Fiance to pluck up the courage from ring purchase to proposal)

Post # 9
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Someday_a_Wifey:  I know its hard, but really try to force yourself to relax, smile, and be the woman he fell in love with.  I did the same thing as you, he had it for 3 months, and I would freak at him.  I’ve realized I made him feel so terrible, he just wanted me to enjoy the proposal, not feel like I forced his hand.  I truly regret the crap I put him through and hindsight is 20/20, but again, please try to be patient, don’t set ultimatums, and be the woman he loves (not grumpy).

 

(I’m sorry, I know you didn’t want to hear that… I didn’t when I was there)

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ooooh I am there with you, however, I KNOW he has the ring.  Needless to say, I am not the most patient person, I have been bugging the poor guy for YEARS, so I figured I would back off now.  I was there when he received the fedex box (2 days before xmas), but I pretended not to care or really know what’s inside. So Xmas eve, Xmas, NYE, random January 2012 weekends…and NOTHING. He’s had an earfull about it, believe me, and the stress from it keeps a lump in my throat. I found the box hidden in his drawer, but I DID NOT open it…

What I suggest, and what I’m doing myself…breathe. Keep yourself busy, don’t look at wedding stuff.  Come on the boards and rant, but take the marriage and engagement topic off the table…he knows what you want, and he just wants to make you happy. He’s just trying to get his stuff together to do it.

Just a note though: You can always get “paper married” this year for tax purposes, but then have an awesome “all the people and dresses” marriage the following year. No one, other than the two of you will know the difference.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@H2MrsDj:  And this helps alot too! Remember when you were first dating and you couldn’t even go to the bathroom with him in the next room?  Oh goodness, and if there weren’t any candles or perfume with you that you’d rather go to the gas station half a block away….Try and giggle and be a girly again. It probably matters so much to him to make you happy, and he’s just completely dumbfounded that he can’t do it right at this moment. Hang in there!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

sending lots of sympathy!!!! Our neighbors/So’s coworker got engaged yesterday after dating around 8 months and living together. I LITERALLY have 13 friends that have gotten engaged since December. It’s like one per week, it’s driving me insaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaane lol

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