(Closed) A seat for every guest at the ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would have a seat for everyone. We only had 60 people at our wedding and the ceremony lasted 5 minutes, but they appreciated being able to sit!

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

There are a few ceremony venues in st Louis that only have seating for up to 10 or 20 or whatever- we avoided those venues for that purpose alone. I’m not saying it won’t work, but I dont think it’s the best thing to do. Then again, we’re not having a seat for everyone at our (cocktail) reception, so maybe I’m not the best person to ask!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@duchiewoo:  It seems to be an Australian thing. I personally hate having to stand at weddings though so out of principle I’m hiring a seat for everyone. I think it looks better in photos too to have all the guests seated!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@duchiewoo:  I’m generally a pretty laid back person, but if you don’t have a seat for everyone it can get a little tricky because people just stand wherever and there is no aisle and it’s a mess. If the space is big enough I’d be fine with standing as a guest if it was under 15 minutes (some ceremonies are very short, I know mine will be) but anything more and I’d start getting fidgety and sick of standing. lol

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@duchiewoo:  Maybe it is an Australian thing, but I don’t see why. Standing in the hot Australian sun is worse than standing in the cold North American winter, I’d imagine. Maybe outdoor weddings here are shorter? 

I’m trying to count in my head the outdoor weddings I’ve been to. 2 definitely had seating for everyone, 3 definitely didn’t (I remember one well because I was pregnant, though it must’ve been short because I was ok), and 2 I’m not sure but I think they didn’t. (Plus 2 I’ve seen on Facebook where I can see standing guests in the photos). So yeah it does seem to be a thing to not seat everyone. I guess the thinking is why put out 60 seats for only 10 minutes’ use? Also at least 1 was in a garden venue which didn’t allow seating.

(But like I said above, I still prefer having a seat).

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@duchiewoo:  I would definitely have a seat for everyone.

 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

From a guest’s perspective I’d be a bit put off if there weren’t enough seats for every guest to sit in. It would feel like the ceremony seating was an after thought, or that the B&G had invited more people just randomly after renting chairs or something.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think you should have seats for everyone, but I will say, there was a very casual wedding that I attended the summer before last where maybe 20 people stood, and it was a small wedding with plenty of seating and I think it was weird (kinda rude too) that so many people were standing.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@aussiemum1248:

 

It must definitley be an Australian thing. At every outdoor wedding I’ve been to, I don’t remember there being enough seats. The being said, at these weddings, everyone is too polite to sit down and only less then half end up being used.

 

We’re not having enough at ours because I know they wont be used except for family and elder guests. Our ceremony will prob only last for 10 minutes though, so I don’t think it will be a problem.    

 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Personally, I have pretty serious back issues that would likely make it very uncomfortable for me to stand still for even a 20 minute ceremony, especially in heels. Make your guests comfortable – have a seat for everyone. 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have only attended one ceremony where there wasn’t a seat for every guest.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@duchiewoo:  I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have chairs for every guest. I would be pretty ticked off to have to stand, though, since I’m generally in heels and also arrive at least 15 minutes before the ceremony for safety. So even for a fifteen minute ceremony, that’s 30 minutes of standing… not to mention I think it would create some real tension as far as who is “important” enough to have a seat, unless it was literally just a few for elderly family. Just odd, though. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

Two negative wedding scenarios: tried or hungry. Standing –》tired

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with everyone, one seat for every butt. I’d be really confused if I showed uP To a wedding and only some people got to sit. 

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