(Closed) A second round of invites to meet our minimum

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would say since you dont have the original invitation AND its only three weeks away…I would skip it. Spend more on the guests you do have coming.

Post # 4
1046 posts
Bumble bee

More will show up then have RSVP’d if you send out a second round of RSVP’s and more people show up you might run low on food, liquor etc… having too much is a lot better than not enough!


Three weeks is pretty close to the wedding.. people might know they have been b-listed and get offended. Plane tickets (if any would be out of town) also start to skyrocket if you don’t book them a month in advance.

but in the end it is up to you!

Post # 5
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is the minimum required for the venue that you have booked…do you have to pay a fee, or loose a deposit if you don’t meet 160?

If you do send them out, you can probably at least skip the ones that have to fly in, as jamiemichelle already pointed out the plane tickets. They would most likely have to get time off too which is pretty last minute.

It can depend though…. I imagined if I got an invite 3 weeks prior to a wedding that was local and assuming an acquaintance, coworker, or not a close friend, then I’d probably go if I had that date free. However, if it were a closer friend (someone that I expected to be on their A list), or out of town, I’d probably have hurt feelings and not go.

It’s a hit or miss, and you know your people better…

Post # 6
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wouldn’t worry about sending out two different style invites.. I’ve never “compared” invitations with people… and I doubt anyone would even realize that they received a different invitation than another guest.

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