A sexless life vent

posted 1 year ago in Intimacy
Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
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Sansa85 :  

I’m not sure it’s possible for everything else in the relationship to be just fine.  The stockpile of resentments and frustrations is likely seeping into every aspect of their relationship.

Post # 33
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Soon2BMrsFredericks :  

He told you he needs it every day and if you don’t give it to him, he will look elsewhere?  Yuck.  Just yuck.  I would have sent him to go looking.

Joking or not, that was a truly gawd awful thing to say to the woman you allegedly love.  Not exactly the way to make you feel respected and cherished.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

chrissybee :  I think its norml to be affected like you are. Dont think its all “in your head”. I constantly bring it up, and guess what? NOTHING CHANGES. I get, you need to relax more, when your a bitch I dont want sex, Im tired all the time, etc etc. And still nothing………

Post # 35
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Busy bee

sassy411 :  I dont truly beleive he meant that comment, however, to me its plain and simple. He isnt caring about MY needs. Period. And it sucks.

Post # 36
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Soon2BMrsFredericks :  you should dump your boyfriend. He said he needs it every day but now you never have sex?  He might be sleeping with someone else or simply watching a lot of porn and masturbating. You deserve better. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee

 

I was where you are right now. Unfortunately, I tried too hard to make it work and we did end up having a baby (after what I felt like that I was coercing him in to sex. Ugh!) But since the situation never really improved, and not to mention he was abusive, I had no choice to but to break up. And now I am in a more difficult position than if I had left him pre-baby. 

Don’t do what I did. Lack of sex is a serious problem in a marriage and if you don’t see light at the end of that tunnel, then ask yourself what is the sense in being married? You two can always be good friends, right?

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