(Closed) A short simple Indian blessing – what should we include?

posted 5 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

aliciaspinnet Indian rituals and traditions are religion specific (I’m assuming your Fiance is Hindu and South Indian), but they are even state/ethnicity/language specific so it’s really hard to give this advice.


Also, unlike vows that you just speak, the hindu wedding ceremony is ritualistic (7 circles around a fire with a priest speaking the “vows” and the bride and groom putting oil/etc in the fire). I think it may be very hard to just incorporate this in the reception, and some may be even more offended by it than not having anything. (if it is “halfway” done, or not done “properly”)


If your Fiance will be giving you a mangalsutra (wedding necklace) or putting sindoor (google these things) perhaps he can do it while seated onstage at the reception – these are both big symbols of a married woman like for example a wedding or engagement ring. (It may be different depending exactly on his culture but htese are general Hindu things).


One more really simple thing you can do is do a jaimala/varmala – this is when bride and groom put a flower garland around each other’s neck – http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-KtliQzpE5DU/TdVubylHrKI/AAAAAAAAAfc/y2iOizQtrUY/s1600/Garland%2B3.JPG


^^ like that picture..again maybe his culture doesn’t do that but I’m north indian and we do…




Hope that helps!




Post # 4
1159 posts
Bumble bee

@aliciaspinnet:  Hi there,

To be honest, i think you would cause more offence if you just picked certain things here and there. It can actually be really offensive if practices are not actually done properly.

I think it’s best to do the proper ceremony or not at all. in your situation i would lean more towards not at all.

I’m half Indian and i am having a Hindu ceremony on a Saturday and my beach vows the following day before the reception.

My brother (half Indian) married an English girl and they did the same (Hindu ceremony on a Thursday, western ceremony and reception on a Saturday).


Post # 6
1159 posts
Bumble bee

@aliciaspinnet:  Sounds nice. They will definitely guide you! Have you considered having something Indian inspired? I have seen a lot of cute wedding cakes that have a henna pattern on them for example.


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